but I want your honest opinion...
My sister is having her first DC in August and I already have two. Back history is that she's much older then me and we've never had a great relationship. So instead of selling much of my baby stuff (which I would honestly rather have done since we could use the money), I gave a lot of it to her. And I mean maternity clothes, baby clothes, bouncy seats, bathtub, swing, etc etc....Now comes baby shower time....I know this sounds awful, but do I have to buy her a present too? I had kind of been thinking that I would go and cook her some meals that could be frozen until after the baby comes. But our Mother (who butts into everything) insists I need to get her a gift. Yes, she did buy gifts, and still buys gifts for my boys...which makes me feel worse...but they ARE (or were up to this point) the only grandchildren in our family and both of my sisters seem to go overboard like that. Does that mean I have to too? For my 2nd son's birthday this year I insisted no toys, just clothes if they really wanted to get something. Otherwise who knows what they would have done! But I'm getting off track.......So I've already given her all of this stuff, is it still required to buy gifts??? Help anyone?
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Exactly!
My honest opinion? Yes, you need to get her a gift if you plan to attend the shower. If you are "hosting" the shower then no...although I've hosted plenty of showers and still given a small gift ($25 or so). If she has a registry...pick something from it. If you are broke and can't spring for $25 maybe make her a "coupon book"...with things you will do for her (babysitting, making dinner, cleaning her kitchen/bathroom, running errands for her, etc).
No, I don't think you have to get a gift. I do like the idea of cooking some meals for her. (I'd love it if someone would do that for me!)
I think you should still get her a gift. It can be a lil something--doesn't have to be expensive.
I would say you definitely have to give her a gift. You gave her a lot of things and that was really nice of you, but it didn't cost you anything to give her those things.
Also, to me, bringing meals is a given. Growing up when one of my mom's friends or someone from church had a baby we always brought a meal. That's what they most need at that time so while it's a nice gesture, I would never consider it a gift, especially for family.
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I did this for a good friend of mine when his wife had a baby- they LOVED it! But, it actually ended up being more expensive than just buying a gift would have been.
Yes, I think you do need to give her something, even something small.
I'm a little late to this party but wanted to comment. I'm on the receiving end of all of the baby stuff and I'm really mad that my sister thinks she needs to give me a gift. I don't understand all of the people on here who have not been in this situation who think that you must definitely give a gift.
It DID cost you money to give your sister all of those things, and if she is a normal, gracious human being, she should be grateful that you saved all of your things for her. I know I am. I'm overwhelmed by my sister's generosity.
I, personally, think my sister's gift of all of her things is HUGE and much bigger than anything token that you can get her. It has let me afford an expensive stroller and other items I may not have been able to get away with had she not given me all of the things that she will be.
A gift does not have to be new to be a gift. Maybe you should talk to your sister about it?
You should buy her a gift. She is your sister. You don't need to break the bank....but come on...