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A women just rubbed my belly an asked when i was due!!!

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A women just rubbed my belly an asked when i was due!!! what do ya say to that? im very skinny but bloted have been since being pregnant and losing the baby! but wgat the hell!? i just made up a date to that lady so she didnt feeel bad,.... but now im sad!!! :(

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Re: A women just rubbed my belly an asked when i was due!!!

  • shanna82shanna82 member

    Ugh!  I'm sorry :(  You are nicer than I am....I think that people won't know they are totally out of line unless you put them in your place.

    I would have come straight out and told her I wasn't pg (which would have totally embarrassed her), and then tell her that my baby actually died--she would've been rightfully mortified.

    I dunno why people call me a b!tch sometimes though  Angel

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  • lunatwolunatwo member

    The proper response to that is "I am due to give you an ass-whoopin".

    Seriously, that is ridiculous.  I am sorry you had an encounter with such a douche nozzle.  All joking aside though, I am very sorry about your loss.  (((BIG HUGS)))

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  • kellbelle618kellbelle618 member
    imageshanna82:

    Ugh!  I'm sorry :(  You are nicer than I am....I think that people won't know they are totally out of line unless you put them in your place.

    I would have come straight out and told her I wasn't pg (which would have totally embarrassed her), and then tell her that my baby actually died--she would've been rightfully mortified.

    I dunno why people call me a b!tch sometimes though  Angel

    Haha this exactly!! I would have done the exact same thing Shanna! I can be pretty b!tchy too sometimes. Wink

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  • sunshinenvasunshinenva
    Sorry.  You definitely handled that better than I would have. 
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  • colourful_dancercolourful_dancer
    lol i think weall can! i just told one of my friend who asked me to be godmother of her baby to of coz she pretty much said that will be the closeest ill get to being a mum!!! hurts when it hasnt even been a month since losing my baby!
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  • verona_1999verona_1999
    What the fvck is wrong with people!! For real I would NEVER ask a woman when she was due even if she was 9 months pregnant!!!  People are idiots!  I'm sorry that you had to experience that!  I think I would have been a complete b!tch!
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  • ValcoValco
    Wow that is brutal. It sounds like you handled very nicely - can't say I would have done the same!
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  • LeesMyBabyLeesMyBaby member
    I'm sorry, people can be so ignorant sometimes.  That would have truly hurt my feelings....I think I would have cried right then and there. 
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  • spincat9spincat9 member
    Wow, you handled it much better than I would have!  I think I would have started bawling...
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  • ala_1220ala_1220
    What is wrong with people?!?!? I had something a little similar happen right after I lost our baby, but she didn't rub my belly!!! Over the last 8 months I got tired of not hurting people's feelings and wanting them to know of our loss and my struggles. I got sick of hiding my own feelings and protecting others embarrassment. I'm so sorry that happened to you. I would have started to cry right there. Giant hugs to you!!!
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  • MarriedandlovingitMarriedandlovingit member
    Oh, honey I am so sorry. That is awful. People can be such idiots sometimes. Big hugs to you, and I am so sorry for your loss.
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  • ksyknelvr73ksyknelvr73 member
    Oh NO NO NO. I am so sorry!! That is so horribly inappropriate!!!! I had something similar happen to me a few months ago and it was awful, so I can understand how you are feeling right now. People just need to keep to themselves!! Good Lord.
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  • lindsay.loulindsay.lou member
    imagecolourful_dancer:

     i just made up a date to that lady so she didnt feeel bad,.... but now im sad!!! :(

    I'm sorry! 

    I've never been in that situation, but I've always thought I'd do the same thing (make up a due date). I'd just want the situation over...so i'd make up a date and run away. 

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  • EntropicEponaEntropicEpona member

    What an idiot! I'd have slapped her hand away and totally bitched her out. Or said something like "oh, my food baby? In about 12 hours or so."

    I repeat: what an idiot!

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