Are you ladies telling people or waiting a bit? If you are telling, who are you telling? Why or why not?
DH and I agreed not to tell until baby is well-established in there. However, I don't think I'm going to make it. I've already told my two best friends and I can't go much more without telling my folks...
(I totally think this is a decision that there is no right/wrong...just what's best for you, but I'm curious if anyone wants to share...Happy Monday!)
Re: To tell or not to tell...
The only person that knows (other than DH) is my best friend, who is also my work buddy. It is so nice to have someone that knows at work.
We are planning to wait to tell our parents until after my first appt (on July 16th.) I should be 7-8 weeks by then, and we are hoping to make it to 12 weeks before telling "the world."
It is so hard to keep it a secret from my mom though. I already have this strange sense that she knows everything and that I'm not doing a very good job of hiding it.
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With DS we told our families right away. It was the first grandbaby on either side and we had been trying for a long time.
With this one we are waiting until we at least hear a heart beat to tell the grandparents and until about 12 weeks to tell everyone else.
I might tell my best friend before then though, I am not sure.
If all goes well today at the doctor, we will probably start telling family and close friends. We are not big secret keepers and would want their support if a m/c happened. Plus I am supposed to be going out this weekend with my gal pals so they will immediately know once I decline to drink any alcohol. I will wait to announce on facebook until I hear the baby's heartbeat...then of course the whole world will know!
Two of my friends know and that's it. One I told because it turns out we are two weeks apart and both with our first! No way I am telling my worry wart mom because we're taking a vacation before she can find out. At first we thought it would be a grandparent's day surprise, both sides will be first time grandparents, but that's too far away. Then we thought my mom's 60th birthday in August. But now maybe we'll tell parents after 1st appointment mid July around my 30th birthday. Then I'll tell school right before going back and everyone else then too.
The rule for myself was:
If it is someone I would want to know I was going through a MC I told them right away.
I am wanting to tell work though, some people are asking actually.
I really like how you put that...I have told my two best friends because they are the ones that would be my shoulders to cry on if anything went wrong.
We are going on vacation, part of which will be spent w/ H's entire extended family. They will notice something is up when I don't drink wine or beer with them. Because of this, we're telling my parents, sister and aunt the night before we leave, and then we'll tell the ILs in person about 4 days later.
We're holding off any telling anyone else until after my first dr appointment. We'll tell our friends in person, or on the phone if they are in a different town. We'll never officially announce on FB - it's just not my style.
I'll wait as long as I can to tell work.