At age 28...

mamarazzi

Would you get an iud or have your h get a vasectomy? We are 99.99% sure we're done. I didn't think I would be but this pregnancy is kicking my ass and I can't see ever doing this to myself or my family again. We're leaning toward vasectomy, but I'm curious what others would do.

lilpiglet

If you are POSITIVE you are done after 3, i would have H get a vasectomy.  If there is question on if you might change your mind, then i would do an IUD...

If you do decide on the vasectomy, i would wait until after the baby is at least a year old, to make sure you are def. positive you are 3 and done...

am073104

Good morning!  How are you feeling today?  Funnily enough, this is the same convo R & I had last night...we're going the IUD route after this one.  I also don't know if I want to do pregnancy again, but who knows if we'll want another one or two 5 years later when the kids are in school?  The situation could be completely different.

MayorMcCheese000

I got an iud and we are 99.9% sure we are done. I wouldn't mind DH getting a V but he seems to be very protective of his balls. I have crazy heavy painful periods and the iud really helps with that a lot so even if DH did get the ol V I would probably STILL want BC anyways to control my period.

JenniC1135

I was 32 when DH had the vasectomy.  Now I wish we'd have waited, but he's still positive he's done, so maybe it's a moot point anyway.  But I definitely wish another baby was still a possibility. 

*Amy*

I would b/c I am sure we are done and as much as I loved my IUD, I am done with hormonal birth control.  If you have any doubt though I would get the IUD.

goodheartedmommy

DH got the vasectomy within a few weeks of M being born. He would have done it while I was pregnant, but he just didn't have the time off of work then. Anyway, he was 25, but we both knew I couldn't risk ever getting pregnant again. I didn't feel like dealing with an IUD, because I knew 100% I was done having children.

penguingrrl

If you were leaning towards more kids until this pregnancy was difficult I would get an IUD.  If you had always said 3 and no more than 3 then I would do a V or a tubal, but it sounds like it could potentially just be hormones talking right now.

We know that we'll be done after #3 (whenever that is) and know well enough that if I can't get a tubal DH will get a V and I'll also get another IUD (I have one now) because we don't want to take chances on either failing and both have a higher fail rate than a tubal!

EMT

Probaby the IUD because of the benefit of no period (at least with the Mirena).

Also, my neighbor just had a surprise DS #3.  Her DH's vasectomy apparently didn't work (although she admitted they didn't do everything right as far as his f/u and sex waiting period).

femmegem

Vasectomy for sure.

butterbeansmama

28 just seems so young still to me.

If you have any doubt (even .00001%), I would go with the IUD.

Heck, I'm 35 and even though DH is adamat that he doesn't want a 3rd, I'm not giving up hope quite yet.

Angela814

I'm so indecisive that I can't imagine ever being completely 100% sure that we're done. I'm also not completely sure how I feel about permanent birth control. I think that's from too many years of Catholic teaching that birth control is wrong. I do know that I never want to go back on the BCP. I don't know what I would do yet...

peekaboo716

lilpiglet:

If you are POSITIVE you are done after 3, i would have H get a vasectomy.  If there is question on if you might change your mind, then i would do an IUD...

If you do decide on the vasectomy, i would wait until after the baby is at least a year old, to make sure you are def. positive you are 3 and done...

And like one of the other pp said, if you had thought before that would wanted 4 or more, then go with the IUD. Even if you decide to go teh V route, I would wait until #3 is at least a year old, since it could be the hormones and just being in the thick of pregnancy that is talking right now.

tsevere

IUD.

IMO, 28 is way too young to be making permanent decisions.  I would defninitely do the IUD and give myself a chance to sit on it for several years.

I'm almost 30 and DH is 38, and I'm still refusing to let him do the vasectomy.  He has an 8yo DD, and we will have 3 boys together.  Pretty sure we're done, but things change and I don't want to have any regrets!

bubu

I wouldn't do anything that was final like a vasectomy until mid 30's or 40's personally.

Kapalua

If I was sure, I'd get a V

If I were you...you're only 28 and you're only 9 weeks-I would definitely reserve any judgment until after the baby is born and you have a chance to get adjusted before doing anything permanent.  

lildevil968

lilpiglet:

If you are POSITIVE you are done after 3, i would have H get a vasectomy.  If there is question on if you might change your mind, then i would do an IUD...

If you do decide on the vasectomy, i would wait until after the baby is at least a year old, to make sure you are def. positive you are 3 and done...

This exactly! We thought we where done after DD, but then DS surprised us. DH's vasectomy was not something that we just talked about 1 time. We wanted to be completely sure that we both felt that our family was complete after DS. I say to get the IUD first, wait a year or 2, and then decide whether you want more kids or not. The first trimester is hard, but it does get easier.

firefightersgal

If I knew I was done, for sure.  If we are able to have another baby, one of us will be 'fixed' after the birth.

Ciarrai

We are 99.99% sure we're done, but we were only about 95% sure when DS was born.  I got an IUD at 8 weeks pp just in case we change our mind.  DH will get a v after DS is 1 or 2ish.  It just gives us a little time to really think it through, get past the pregnancy (which was really rough emotionally and physically) and past the newborn stage (which is always really rough).  Still, it's looking more and more like we're making the right decision.  Pregnancies and newborns are so rough on my kids, my marriage, my business and my body.  As much as I would love a 4th (even as chaotic as my house is), I just don't think I can do it.  Besides, my house really is total chaos and a 4th might send me over the edge (if the 3rd doesn't soon).  I got the Paraguard.  It's good for 10 years so we aren't in any rush, but probably in 2 years or so, DH will get snipped.

FWIW - I just turned 30 and DH will be 38 this year.  We knew we wanted to be done by the time he was 40 so that's creeping up. 

MrsCali_Bride

lilpiglet:

If you are POSITIVE you are done after 3, i would have H get a vasectomy.  If there is question on if you might change your mind, then i would do an IUD...

If you do decide on the vasectomy, i would wait until after the baby is at least a year old, to make sure you are def. positive you are 3 and done...

Ditto this.

AngelaSue

I'm 27, and I'm not 100% sure we're done, but my doctor has pretty much told me we need to highly consider this baby being our last because this will be my 4th c-section, so when we meet with the OB who will be doing my c-sect, he'll be discussing having a tubal at the same time as my c-sect. Never thought I'd be thinking about that at 27, but I'd rather not put my body and future babies at risk, so I think this is the best option for us. Plus this pregnancy has been really tough on my body and I feel like I'm getting my butt kicked! 

monchichi

I definitely wouldn't do anything permanent right now.  I just had #3 and was 99% sure I was done BEFORE the baby came.  Now, I really want #4!

S h i tStirrer

Please do something. People are already dreading the 9 months we have to listen to you ponder and complain about every.little.thing. Prior to getting pregnant you posted 12 times a month asking if you could be pregnant. Please for the sake of everyone here do something to ensure we don't have to listen to this nonsense anymore. 

TIA. 

emilykristene2006

S h i tStirrer:

Please do something. People are already dreading the 9 months we have to listen to you ponder and complain about every.little.thing. Prior to getting pregnant you posted 12 times a month asking if you could be pregnant. Please for the sake of everyone here do something to ensure we don't have to listen to this nonsense anymore. 

TIA. 

It would be really nice to know who you are so we can know if you are really an aw or a complainer. It's just awfully weak to come in as an AE and bash people.

FriskyPanda

IUD.

DH and I are pretty sure we are done but I'm just not ready for the permanence of a vasectomy.

Punk*Mommy

EMT:

Probaby the IUD because of the benefit of no period (at least with the Mirena).

Also, my neighbor just had a surprise DS #3.  Her DH's vasectomy apparently didn't work (although she admitted they didn't do everything right as far as his f/u and sex waiting period).

Not always true.

I have had the Mirena in since Aug. '08 and my periods still haven't gone away... as a matter of fact they went from 4 days in length to 2 weeks.