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yeah...so...(not a BFP announcement)

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I got an email from a college friend that they are going to TTC.  She claimed for years that she'd never have biological kids and maybe none at all, but I knew it was only a matter of time.  I will be 100% thrilled for her no matter how quickly it happens for her, but it is still going to sting a little.  I know that sounds selfish and I can't really explain it, it was just easier when my "need to avoid pg people" moments weren't going to include any of my friends for quite a while.

 


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2 years, 2 surgeries, 2 clomid fails, 2 IUIs, 1 loss, IVF #1 - 10/25/10 = BFP!, DS is now 3.5yrs!
TTC #2 - 6/12 surgery #3, FET #1 & 1.2 = BFN, 12/2012 FET #2 = BFP! DD is 1.5 yrs!
Surprise! 12/16/14 BFP, loss #2 12/31/14

I can't wait for the "im getting a divorce" post in 5 years or so because your husbands were fed up with your disgusting chair asses from playing on the knot all day and getting fired 4-5 times for not doing any work. you guys are all winners!! ~ Laur929

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  • sail123sail123 member

    That is tough. I'm sorry.

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  • laurens1122laurens1122

    I'm sorry L. It is tough when anyone close to us get's PG when we want it so badly for ourselves. ((hugs))

    BTW, I had a good time last night! It was so great to meet you IRL! :)

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  • STL34STL34 member

    I'm sorry.  I know how hard it can be with close friends/family members PG.  It is also hard to find out that they weren't comfortable telling you they were trying.  My sister had her third child last year.  She got PG one month after stopping BCPs.  I was happy for and love my niece, but sometimes it is harder to talk to her.  I love hearing about my niece and nephews, but right now it is really hard to hear about.  If I could have gotten PG that easy, I would have my own baby right now.

    My SIL just got married to her long time boyfriend.  He proposed and then the wedding was a couple of months later.  The hold up for him proposing was that he wanted kids and she didn't.  Now, she is willing to have at least one child.  Anyhow, we have never been invited over for dinner at their place.  Now, this week, she is having us and my FIL and his wife over for dinner on Sunday.  I am pretty worried that she is going to tell us she is PG.  Today is their one month anniversary.

    Sorry.  I didn't mean to hijack the post.  This has been on my mind for some time.  ((hugs)) 

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  • LnR70707LnR70707 member
    imagelaurens1122:

    I'm sorry L. It is tough when anyone close to us get's PG when we want it so badly for ourselves. ((hugs))

    BTW, I had a good time last night! It was so great to meet you IRL! :)

    Thanks!  I had a great time too!


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    2 years, 2 surgeries, 2 clomid fails, 2 IUIs, 1 loss, IVF #1 - 10/25/10 = BFP!, DS is now 3.5yrs!
    TTC #2 - 6/12 surgery #3, FET #1 & 1.2 = BFN, 12/2012 FET #2 = BFP! DD is 1.5 yrs!
    Surprise! 12/16/14 BFP, loss #2 12/31/14

    I can't wait for the "im getting a divorce" post in 5 years or so because your husbands were fed up with your disgusting chair asses from playing on the knot all day and getting fired 4-5 times for not doing any work. you guys are all winners!! ~ Laur929

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  • flyckaflycka member
    That inexplicable feeling is understandable. I hope you're out of here soon.
    And you can always edit.

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  • LnR70707LnR70707 member

    imageflycka:
    That inexplicable feeling is understandable. I hope you're out of here soon.
    And you can always edit.

    very true...this may become a vent about my temp dip today.  Of course, that would make all the reponders look crazy Stick out tongue


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    2 years, 2 surgeries, 2 clomid fails, 2 IUIs, 1 loss, IVF #1 - 10/25/10 = BFP!, DS is now 3.5yrs!
    TTC #2 - 6/12 surgery #3, FET #1 & 1.2 = BFN, 12/2012 FET #2 = BFP! DD is 1.5 yrs!
    Surprise! 12/16/14 BFP, loss #2 12/31/14

    I can't wait for the "im getting a divorce" post in 5 years or so because your husbands were fed up with your disgusting chair asses from playing on the knot all day and getting fired 4-5 times for not doing any work. you guys are all winners!! ~ Laur929

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  • loloindiegololoindiego

    (((hugs))) I don't think it sounds selfish at all. Unfortunately we've all felt that exact feeling of being genuinely happy for someone else, but sad for ourselves at the same time. It's perfectly normal & o.k. to feel that way.

    Literally ALL of my married friends and family have had a baby within the last 6 months or so.. So help me if any of my single girlfriends get pregnant before me!! :)

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  • flyckaflycka member
    Now I have to comment on your temp dip...
    By the way I just couldn't make myself temp my past break cycle. I did use the CBEFM though. Props to you for that.

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  • heathercaraheathercara
    Hugs love :)
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  • gymnst1013gymnst1013 member
    I'm so sorry L :( 
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  • Jill070707Jill070707
    I completely and totally understand.  *hugs* Hopefully it will happen for you first and you won't have to worry about it!
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  • Chelle712Chelle712
    I'm so sorry! While you are happy for others and their blessings (phantom or not), it still stings. We're here for you!
    TTC #1 since April 2009 IUIs 1-3= BFN IVF 1=BFN
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  • Temp356619000002780Temp356619000002780

    I wouldn't delete this, it might help her understand what you go through!

    (((hugs)))

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  • j&j508j&j508 member

    Been there!  That sucks.

    In fact, I'm going to see a friend tonight who is pg with twins.  They started two months after we did.  She's due in September.  She has no idea we've been trying at all, so there's no filter.

    Sad   (don't get me wrong- I'm thrilled for her.)

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  • WifezzillaWifezzilla member
    ooh that does suck. i had to comment because i know it would bother me. BUT, at the same time i'd feel some sort of relief in knowing ahead of time that way, KWIM?
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  • LnR70707LnR70707 member

    imageWifezzilla:
    ooh that does suck. i had to comment because i know it would bother me. BUT, at the same time i'd feel some sort of relief in knowing ahead of time that way, KWIM?

    Yeah, it is better knowing than getting the news out of the blue.


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    2 years, 2 surgeries, 2 clomid fails, 2 IUIs, 1 loss, IVF #1 - 10/25/10 = BFP!, DS is now 3.5yrs!
    TTC #2 - 6/12 surgery #3, FET #1 & 1.2 = BFN, 12/2012 FET #2 = BFP! DD is 1.5 yrs!
    Surprise! 12/16/14 BFP, loss #2 12/31/14

    I can't wait for the "im getting a divorce" post in 5 years or so because your husbands were fed up with your disgusting chair asses from playing on the knot all day and getting fired 4-5 times for not doing any work. you guys are all winners!! ~ Laur929

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