birthmother drama grrrrr

mrsdrkwaver

Uugh Baby Mother Drama I hate it I hope the baby comes soon so we can get this over with. She wants more money. I don't have a problem giving her more money what she is asking for is not crazy my problem is how she asked for it. She is threating me that she will walk and find a couple that wants to pay it. I am so glad the lawyers are handling it. I have so many things i want to say to this women and can't. Whats sad is I have such a kind heart that she doesn't even have to threaten us all she had to do is ask and i would have gone to the lawyers to find out if it was allowable, grrr 6 weeks till do date I sure hope we can keep this going and not have to walk away so close. We are not rich people but our concern is not he money she is asking for right now but when will stop if we give it to her this time will she ask for more. I feel like she will. I guess all I can do is wait and see. 

Sunny1s

Ugh!  How frustrating!  I wish you didn't have to have those types of things said to you and hanging over your head as you await the arrival of this baby.  What type of relationship do you plan to have going forward with BM?

mrsdrkwaver

We really dont have much of a relationship. When ever I try to email her a hows it going email I get one talking about money back it stinks. 

mcmann05

:-( That's no good, hope things work out!

jehnm

I'm so sorry!  I was hoping things had improved.  Thinking of you!

kmkaull2

Honey, I really am sorry about this stress she's putting you through.  Is this gal getting some counseling?  Does she have someone positive in her life that is supporting this adoption plan? 

 All together, I have to be honest with you and say that I'm seeing major red flags here.  Things seem to be escalating as the delivery draws closer.  I hope she carries through and does the right thing in the end.  I know this is almost impossible to do, but guard your heart the best you can. 

amm78

I see some red flags here, too.   It doesn't seem to me that her priority is placing her baby with the right family, but with the "highest bidder".  I hope things end well for you guys.

JulieF

Hi! I am so sorry that you're going through this.

I am a new poster and haven't read your whole story.  Are you pursuing independent adoption, agency, or another avenue?  I am just curious because I want to avoid a similar situation in which the BM keeps asking for more and more.

Go_Dawgs

I'm sorry  Just be careful.  Have you talked to the agency to get a feel on how committed she is about placing?  That's the part that would make me nervous.

Alicia_22

I'm sorry she is demanding more money! I hate to say it ( becuase I know how hard it is to think this) but I agree that these are major red flags! Please just be careful and make sure you don't pay out more than you are willing (and able) to lose if she changes her mind before the baby is born.

mrsdrkwaver

JulieF:

Hi! I am so sorry that you're going through this.

I am a new poster and haven't read your whole story.  Are you pursuing independent adoption, agency, or another avenue?  I am just curious because I want to avoid a similar situation in which the BM keeps asking for more and more.

This is an agency adoption which i am so glad for cause they are working with her on all of this. We thought that we would not have these problems with an agency adoption but guess not. Just make sure you have an agency like we do that is really trying to work for us.

To everyone else thank we see the red flags and so does the agency. they are very angry with this girl and do believe its allabout the pay out and not the baby.  The agency is trying to find that middle ground that will make her happy enough that she wont walk away but also to not let her think she can sell her baby.  its so hard but i am hoping they will work through it all.

PhiPrincess

Sorry.   

GLynn2009

UGH I wish someone could get through to her. Sorry, I hope things get better.