T&P's please (long)
One of my friends has two children, a 3 yo boy (C), and a 2 yo girl (E). She has full custody(because the dad let the LO's run around IN THE SNOW with just a diaper on because he was too doped out to care), and is getting a divorce from their father.
She has signed over temp custody of C to my friends Mom. She's leaving KY, moving to TX with her new boyfriend (who is married), is supposedly pregnant, and is going to go work with him at a carnival. His wife is moving to TX as well, and is pregnant as well, but doesn't know who the father is. I seriously cannot make this sh*t up.
E is going to stay with her paternal grandmother. E's dad is living there. E's grandma is a druggie, and has several men in and out of that house who are also druggies.
Boy E & C have been verbally and physically abused. If you raise your voice in the room at all, they cower. If you reach down to take something away, or to move them, they cower. E acts out because of WAY too much sugar and not enough positive attention.
To make a long story semi-shorter.... DH and I told my friend that we would take E. Either temporarily or permanently.
I'm scared to death. I'm scared she'll say no, but I'm also scared she'll say yes. I don't have ANY idea how we could do it... but I know there is no way I couldn't not offer, kwim? I'm scared of the ramifications it could have to Keevia. I've known this baby since she was born... although not so much in the last year or so... but I kept her for a WEEK when she was 3 months old because her Mom had surgery (who does that? Who lets their kid go to someone elses house 2 hours away for a week and calls once to check???).
We have a call in to my SIL's lawyer to see how much $ drawing up papers would be as such... which is a semi-moot point because J (my friend) hasn't decided where she's letting E stay. She doesn't know how long she'll be gone... just long enough to "get her finances in order".
It's killing me. Completely killing me. I've been a wreck all day, and I know I'll continue to be... How can you DO that to your kids? I mean seriously.
Any thoughts or prayers would be greatly appreciated. Thanks guys.
Re: T&P's please (long)
Wow, what a crazy situation. I'll pray that things work out for the best for both of those LO's. It's a shame the person taking care of the other LO couldn't keep both of them- I would think having siblings stick together in a situation like this would at least make it easier on them both.
It's so sad that there are situations like this and these innocent LO's get caught in the middle. So unfair.
We won't go into my qualms over my friends mom who is keeping C... she doesn't like girls, and therefore, doesn't want to keep E. BUT, C will be well taken care of there. I can't take both because she already signed over temp custody of C. I'd take both if they'd let me. IF, however, I had E, they would be able to see each other a lot... as I'm about 5 miles from my friends house, and we would make sure they see each other. Her grandmother lives about 30 miles away, & doesn't have a car, so it would be up to my friends to get C over to see them... so I doubt they'd see each other much.