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WTF=Nada (& I heart my RE)

MAH123MAH123
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Fetal testing showed nada, it was female tissue so it may have been me or the baby. Anyway, we've repeated some of the factor testing. He said despite the fact that I have carried a pg to term, rarely these can manifest later on and that he wants to be thorough. I have no problem with that and feel like an oddity at this point anyway. So, new plan is to start BCPs in Sept and FET#1 in Oct.

I do heart my RE, when I expressed that I was disappointed we didn't have an answer because I needed to know it wasn't something I did (rational me knows this, irrational me doesn't) he stopped me mid-sentence. He stated I am not to have that thought and that he thinks the opposite. He thinks I did everything I could to have and nuture this pg and the thought has never crossed his mind that there was something I could have done different. ONWARDS.

1 ectopic 3 m/c's prior to 5/05 Un-freaking-explained IF 5/05 IVF, BFN 9/05 FET 3d5e, BFP = Beautiful Baby Girl (lucky pg #5) 8/08 Fet 3d5e, cp 12/08 IVF with PGD, transfer 3, BFN 5/09 FET transfer 4, BFN Hail Mary IUI with Follistim 9/11 BFP; 9/22 confirmed tubal/MTX 4/10 FET 3d5e, BFP!!!! m/c 5/26/10 1 year break and yet another m/c 5/11 FET #5 initial beat 121, second beta 7 Lap and removal of L tube and very mild endo 7/11 Suprise BFP 12/11 & m/c @ 8 wks. After 11 losses and one beautiful miracle our journey is over, we are thankful and at peace.
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  • jcathjcath member
    I'm sorry he didn't have any answers for you but I agree with your RE - you have gone above and beyond the call of what alot of people would do for a healthy pregnancy.  Glad you have a new plan!
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  • *Chicken**Chicken*

    It's always a good thing when you love your RE. 

    I agree that nothing you did caused this and to stop thinking that *smacks MAH on the head* Wink

     

     

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  • Haribo1Haribo1
    I am glad your RE is trying his best figure out what is happening!  I also completely agree with this NOT being your fault.  
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  • pnltyboxpnltybox

    I know it can be frustrating not to get the answers you're looking for, but you shouldn't listen to "irrational you".  I agree with your RE, there was nothing you did that caused this (or any previous loss) to happen.  You have been so on top of everything and have followed every step perfectly.  I love that your RE is so supportive of you.........that makes a hell of a difference when you're going through this process.

    Keep up the positive attiude and gear up for FET in October!  Did he say anything about trying "naturally" until BCP's in Sept??

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  • MAH123MAH123
    Got the ok to go ahead with the natural process, according to the RE "what's the worst that could happen"......DH is opposed to all charting, opks, etc at this time....so just sex for fun now, I'm not opposed!
    1 ectopic 3 m/c's prior to 5/05 Un-freaking-explained IF 5/05 IVF, BFN 9/05 FET 3d5e, BFP = Beautiful Baby Girl (lucky pg #5) 8/08 Fet 3d5e, cp 12/08 IVF with PGD, transfer 3, BFN 5/09 FET transfer 4, BFN Hail Mary IUI with Follistim 9/11 BFP; 9/22 confirmed tubal/MTX 4/10 FET 3d5e, BFP!!!! m/c 5/26/10 1 year break and yet another m/c 5/11 FET #5 initial beat 121, second beta 7 Lap and removal of L tube and very mild endo 7/11 Suprise BFP 12/11 & m/c @ 8 wks. After 11 losses and one beautiful miracle our journey is over, we are thankful and at peace.
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  • MAH123MAH123
    image*Chicken*:

     *smacks MAH on the head* Wink

     

     

    Get in line behind DH and rational MAH!

    1 ectopic 3 m/c's prior to 5/05 Un-freaking-explained IF 5/05 IVF, BFN 9/05 FET 3d5e, BFP = Beautiful Baby Girl (lucky pg #5) 8/08 Fet 3d5e, cp 12/08 IVF with PGD, transfer 3, BFN 5/09 FET transfer 4, BFN Hail Mary IUI with Follistim 9/11 BFP; 9/22 confirmed tubal/MTX 4/10 FET 3d5e, BFP!!!! m/c 5/26/10 1 year break and yet another m/c 5/11 FET #5 initial beat 121, second beta 7 Lap and removal of L tube and very mild endo 7/11 Suprise BFP 12/11 & m/c @ 8 wks. After 11 losses and one beautiful miracle our journey is over, we are thankful and at peace.
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  • Deanne ShehaneDeanne Shehane member
    Oh MAH, I'm sorry there weren't any definite answers for you. Your RE sounds wonderful. I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
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  • OscarQOscarQ member
    I'm sorry that the testing didn't yield any answers.  And I puffy heart your RE for his response.  Of course you didn't do anything that caused the loss (and I get what you mean about rational vs irrational you - I felt the same way until I was assured by my RE that I didn't do anything wrong with my loss too).
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