NSAIFR: Big time family drama :(

Magoy

I've never posted about my family drama before.... but my dad is finally leaving my evil stepmother.  It's way too long to go into, but she's a miserable person who was abusive to my sister and I for years when we lived at home.  This is really 20 years too late in my opinion, but better late than never I guess.  She has always treated my dad like crap.  She never even wanted him to really associate w/ me and my sister or our kids.  She didn't want to be a "grandma" and she didn't want to him to act like a grandpa.  

They have two kids together who are 18 and almost 14.  And they are obviously crushed.  I would never say an unkind word about their mother to them, but she has already started trashing me, my sister, and my dad to them.  This just makes me soooo sad.  

So while part of me is doing a little happy dance that he is finally telling her to "f- off!"... the other half of me is so sad and for my little brother and sister.  

 

InACitySoNice

That's awful for their two kids.  It's a darned shame that your father didn't see her true colors until now.  So sorry you were treated badly by her.  I cannot even imagine.  That's so sad.  But I'm glad for you and your sister.  Your inner-children must be celebrating!

artygirl

I'm sorry to hear that you had to deal with an evil stepmother growing up.  I had one of those, though I didn't live with her.

Even though your stepmonster if trashing you to your little brother and sister, I would still consider reaching out to them.  You have been a part of their life and it would be sad for them to lose touch with you. 

My stepmother (and stepsisters) basically cut off all ties to me the day my Dad died.  It miffs me and hurts my feelings that I was a part of their life for over 20 years, and when my Dad was gone, they brushed their hands of me.

LucyPevensie

Tell your little sister and brother that you love them, so much, and you will always, always be there for them.  No matter what.  Look them in the eyes and tell them that - they will hear you.  And she won't be able to make that "not true" by talking crap.