RE: DD's birthday, would this matter to you?

docmay25

Emmy's birthday party is Saturday.  I have a lot to do to get the house ready so I asked mil to watch teh kids on Friday.  She said she could bring them to her house so they would be out of the way...very nice of her and that she would take them overnight and bring them back around 12.  The party is at 2:00.

saturday is Emmy's actual birthday.  A part of me is thinking how great it si to have them out of the hosue for dh and I to get everything done for the party.  Then another part of me is feeling bad that I won't see her when she wakes up to wish her a happy birthday and that she will be at in-laws the morning her birthday.

wwyd?  Think it is a big deal if dc is away for part of their birthday?  Or more important to get the things done for the party?

WBs_Bride

That would not really bother me. I would be loving the time to get stuff ready for the party. Your b-day wishes will have the same meaning to DD whether you say them first thing in the morning or at noon.

butterbeansmama

It wouldn't bother me to have them away for the morning of the birthday. I don't even think Preston would really care (as long as there was a party in his honor and his friends were coming over later in the day). I'm pretty sure that would trump any Happy Birthday that I say to him...lol.

peekaboo716

I think your feelings matter more to you than what your DD would think about for her birthday. I am sure your MIL will make a big deal of her birthday and you have a party for her when she gets home. She will love the party more than anything and you can do something special with her after it.

I don't think it would matter much to me. Although, I declined going to an OOT wedding for DS's first birthday, so take my comments FWIW. After the 1st birthday, I have found I am more lax about that stuff.

joseysbride

I'm totally sentimental, and I would want to see her first thing in the morning.  Maybe you could offer to meet your IL's for supper somewhere to pick up the kids so she wouldn't be making an extra trip just to bring them home? 

It's kind of a tradition for us now that I decorate while she's sleeping, and then when she wakes up she is all surprised and excited.  This year she totally remembered last year, and told me about a week before her birthday, "You can just surprise me again this year, mom."

joseysbride

Oh, and I'm totally agreeing with the others that this is more about how YOU feel, not her.  And I don't think that's a bad thing. 

jessicaclare

We've never had a party on DD's actual birthday, mostly because I like to be able to just spend that day with her. I'm sentimental like that and I know the day will come when she won't want to spend her birthday with me anymore so I want to cherish it while I can. I agree that its more how you feel than how she feels. She'll feel special either way.

docmay25

Thanks for the opnions.  I know that it is more me who cares about seeing her in the morning than her.  And it probably makes more sense for me to have the time to get everything ready.  I would love to see her first thing when she wakes up, but after that I will be busy decorating for the party etc. and she will probably be able to do more, have more fun at mil's house.

DandelionMom

joseysbride:

I'm totally sentimental, and I would want to see her first thing in the morning.  Maybe you could offer to meet your IL's for supper somewhere to pick up the kids so she wouldn't be making an extra trip just to bring them home? 

It's kind of a tradition for us now that I decorate while she's sleeping, and then when she wakes up she is all surprised and excited.  This year she totally remembered last year, and told me about a week before her birthday, "You can just surprise me again this year, mom."

Ditto Joesys!