Unreal - party RSVP

jlw2505

Some people just really surprise me.  My DD's 4th birthday party is on Sat.  I sent out the invites back in Mid May with a Juen 5th RSVP date and specifically stated that I need to know the number of kids and adults attending to make sure I had enough food.  On June 2nd, I sent a reminder email or note in the kids folders at school to the people that had not responded.  On June 5th all but 3 had responded so I assumed those would be no's.  Over the weekend, one of my friends emails to say she was so sorry she had forgotten to respond but they can't make it.  Another responded June 4th that they couldn't come but had a gift for my DD.  So one still outstanding by the end of the weekend. 

I ordered the cake and got all the goody bag stuff on Sunday, ordered the Subway party platters on Tuesday.  Yesterday afternoon as I'm walking into school to get my kids, the mother of the last kid says in passing - "We'll see you Saturday" and keeps going.  I was totally floored.  I see this family at least a few days a week and we always say hi and have small chit cha.  She really had to wait until 3 days before the party to tell me they are coming?

I ended up needing to run back to the party store to get more goody bag stuff since I was now one short (I was not going to give my niece and nephew the same stuff since they are older and had gotten them books but ended up doing the bag for them plus the book since I had to buy more stuff for this one kid). 

I am at least grateful that they actually told me they were coming vs just showing up as we would not have had a goody bag plus we put the kids name on the bags and on one thing in the bag.

I just don't get why people can't respond when they get the invite/by the RSVP date.  I am one who responds within the 1st few days of getting it so I I always get so annoyed when I need to track down the people.

bridesrighthand

Yea, that's one of my biggest pet peeves.  It's not hard to reply, I just don't get it.

momofolivia

it sucks, but I would have had at least one or two goody bags with no names written just in case someone showed up that wasn't going to, or brought another kid without asking.

People are stupid, but now you know and prepare for the next time.

ArcticFox

I am in the same boat.  But I ordered a $65 cake and then people were no-shows.  So I am over the parties.  My DD is old enough that we'll just have kids, so no more of the ILs being total jerks and not RSVPing or deciding not to come last minute.

marriedchick06

momofolivia:

it sucks, but I would have had at least one or two goody bags with no names written just in case someone showed up that wasn't going to, or brought another kid without asking.

People are stupid, but now you know and prepare for the next time.

Agreed! 

dnagal

momofolivia:

it sucks, but I would have had at least one or two goody bags with no names written just in case someone showed up that wasn't going to, or brought another kid without asking.

People are stupid, but now you know and prepare for the next time.

Ditto.  

jlw2505

I was all set to get extra bags but then everyone but this one family that I see daily had responded so I figured they weren't coming and I know what sibs are coming and all that (even bought stuff for the babies that I wasn't sure were coming).  I think I am going to end up close on the food but I just won't eat until I see that everyone else has (same with my DH).  We always order more than needed but you just never know.  My SIL's never respond officially but I I always hear through the grapevine if they are coming to things or not.  For that matter, I always have to ask my ILs as well but I know they will never miss anything like this unless its a really good reason.

roseroseroseroserose

People just don't RSVP. It's so frustrating. So frustrating. Since my wedding, I always RSVP asap so I am not one of "those people!"

roseroseroseroserose

People just don't RSVP. It's so frustrating. So frustrating. Since my wedding, I always RSVP asap so I am not one of "those people!"

Mama2S-K-M

I am having the same issue with DS's 3rd b-day party on Sunday.  We invited DH's Uncles and Aunts, none of them RSVP'd.  I sick MIL on them to find out if they are coming so I can be sure to have enough food.  MIL calls today to tell me that one Uncle his wife are coming and they are bringing their 2 grandkids! 

What?! The kids were not invited AND the adults didn't even RSVP.  They think it is not only ok for them to just show up, but to bring 2 extra people??  UGH!  Now I have to go get more goody bag stuff for these kids too! 

I would never not RSVP and I would never assume I could bring people who were not on the invite!

PearlieGirl'sMom

More than half the people did not RSVP for DD's B-day party. I didn't know who was coming or what and sent out reminders. Out of all the kids I invited, two came. And then one came AFTER the party ended! Ugh!

Angiesmommy

I just dont get why its so hard for some people to pick up the phone or send off a quick email, even a TEXT!!  This happened to me last week with DD's bday party.  I called my dads side of the family over and over again to get an answer and they either didnt pick up or weren't sure. I get a call the DAY BEFORE that my grandma and aunt will be coming and bringing.....2 cousins, a girlfriend, 2 kids and an uncle!! (who WE NOT invited)      I had to rush out and find things to put goodie bags together, since I had ordered all the original stuff online when i thought i had a set number.   it was SOOO frustrating