Sad.

sarahslost

My best friend, the one that had the ITA (mini stroke) was basically told yesterday she can't even get pregnant again.  Or I should say shouldn't get pregnant again.

She has a hole in her heart that if she has a blood clot is what can cause the stroke.  And apparently pregnancy makes one more prone to blood clots.  The doc (also my migraine doc) wants her to get a 10yr IUD.  He does not recommend tubal ligation because of the invasiveness.  I guess that's not good for her condition either.

She has the worse case scenario hole.  The procedure (non-surgical) to close it is not approved by the FDA unless medical necessity is proven.  So she has a long road ahead of her.

But yeah, the option to have another child has basically been taken from her because it could basically kill her or make her a vegetable.  (worst case of course)

ETA - Obviously it's not just the fact that she'll probably not have more children that I'm sad about.  I'm terrified of the chances something might happen to my best friend.  She's only 32.

Temp108743750006959

I'm sorry your friend is going through this. I know how I'd feel if this were my best friend. I am surprised by the 10yr IUD -- isn't that also hormone based?

sarahslost

Yeah, I don't know.  I don't get it really.  I would think his recommendation would be for her husband to have a vasectomy.

sarahslost

Oh, it's the ParaGuard.  Copper IUD with no hormones.

JOEBunny

I am sad for her too.  That is hard.  I hope they can do the surgery.  My nephew was born with a hole in his heart and several other things.  It seems weird that if you are an adult, they won't fix it? 

Paraguard is the 10 year IUD.  I have it.  It does not have harmones.

Katesmama

That is sad.  Maybe a girl date with a glass of wine to help you both feel better.