Help! DS loves the wrap & the Ergo while sleeping, but if I try to put him in awake, he squirms, kicks and cries. I need to start wearing him while he's awake. Any suggestions to help him (and me)?
Jennychrm: You should post this as a separate question, because I'm curious what everyone else would say!
IMO, I'm no attachment parenting expert (I only follow some tenets of AP), but the benefits of babywearing are so great that I think it's worth trying to get LO to accept it. My DS now vastly prefers being worn to the stroller, but it didn't used to be that way. I had to push him to try it and he learned to like it. If he'd continued to really resist it, I'd have stopped pushing it on him. And anytime I wear him, if it's clear that he's had enough, I take him out of the carrier immediately.
jennychrm:I don't have any kids yet, I am still just 17 weeks along... and I have been lurking on this board to try and get more info about attachment parenting. Please don't flame me for asking, it is a serious question and something I don't yet understand about attachment parenting... Is it bad to let the baby NOT be worn if he/she doesn't like it? Is it ok to let them sleep on their own and not be worn then... or is that not really attachment parenting, then? Thanks for the info!
it is still AP! if your baby does not like to be worn and prefers to sleep in his crib, then you're being an AP mom by following his cues and preferences...and that's what it's all about!
(at least that's my opinion)
DD went through a phase like that at almost the exact same age. She wasn't worn at all for at least 6 weeks around then...she hated it! As pp said, I just kept trying when she was fed and happy for short periods of time. She liked facing out, so we got a RS and used the facing out buddha hold at around 3 months. Then she started tolerating high back carries for short amounts of time. Then longer. And finally at around 4.5 months, she started liking facing in front carries again.
If it makes you feel any better, we are on a holiday right now and I literally wear her for the ENTIRE day (yesterday it was for 8 hours straight!) and she was happy as a little clam. Just keep trying...he'll come around!
Thanks, bumpies. i'll try the fed & happy for short times idea. sounds logical to me. wish me luck!!
and my 2 cents about the question "is it still ap?" i'm not an extremist at all (we try to use glass, but dont freak about freezing milk in plastic, we bf but ds has bottles & pacis, we ap but own a stroller, swing & bouncy seat). i don't think ap is like the 10 commandments, more like ideas to incorporate if/how/when they work for you. h&h pregnancy! congrats!