Ok ladies, here's one for you..
I'd like everyone's opinion on how you would feel if this happened to you.
My husbands best friend became a very close friend of mine after we met..over 7 years ago. About 2 years ago, I introduced a very close friend of mine to my husbands best friend. They hit it off and got engaged shortly after my husband and Chris (the best friend) came home from Iraq this past September. A few months ago, a huge argument over a stupid football game ended my friendship with Chris and Stacy. Well, they got married this past Saturday. Of course, my husband was the best man so I got invited as well. I felt awkward going to the wedding as it was and then losing our baby girl added more stress to the situation. I decided to go ahead and go because my husband expressed how much he wanted me to be there with him. Anyway, I come to find out at the wedding that Stacy is 9 weeks pregnant. It felt like someone kicked me in the stomach when I was told. I wanted to leave right away. I wanted to scream. I wanted to cry. Actually, I did cry. Her and Chris both apologized to me and expressed their sympathy over our loss but it doesn't change anything in my book. Now, knowing that she's pregnant makes things so much worse. I can't be happy for her. I know I should, but I just can't.
Opinions?
Re: Ok ladies, here's one for you..
I think it is normal for us to hate pg women or women with babies....
I'm hoping it passes before one of my bf's has her baby in August. I've only been able to hang out with her once since m/c and I cried.
I don't want to make her feel bad. Her baby shower is in a couple weeks--that should be fun.
Make it my BIL's fiance though, so our future nephew...and I have yet to hear anything directly from them about the shower, only bits of info. from other confused family members too.
OP - I think it is normal to feel conflicted. I cried last weekend when DH told me a couple he works with is expecting. I KNOW there isn't a finite number of babies in the world and that they didn't take ours, plus I like them and think they'll be great parents...but what I KNOW and what I FEEL on this topic aren't always the same thing. The feeling in the pit of my stomache seems to beat out any logic my brain might try to offer.