I learned last week that someone I work with suffered a loss. I feel so terrible about it and I am hearbroken for her. I feel a sense of guilt, too, because I found out that she was pg after my m/c and didn't congratulate her. I was sincerely happy for her and was planning on doing it but didn't feel like I was "ready" yet.
Anyway, there was a card and an envelope passed around at work that I contributed to, but I wanted to let her know that I had a recent loss as well and I am there for her. That wasn't something that I could say in that card since no one really knew about my pg or m/c. I bought a card on Thursday that I had intended to mail out to her this week and of course I never did. She will be back to work this week so I am wondering if I should mail the card- which would arrive after she comes back to work- or- should I put the card in her work mailbox?
On one hand- I really want to express my condolences to her but are cards too painful to look at? Would it be too upsetting to receive a card like that at work? (obviously she may choose not to open cards at work)
I feel dumb asking these questions but I feel so helpless in this situation. Thanks.