It was a miscarriage - not a communicable diesease people

cutebride73

So on Tuesday one of my BFF's called to tell me she was pregnant and of course due right between when my 2 due dates were.  I had a breakdown after I got of fthe phone with her, but I am doing better now.  She lives out of town, but is coming in for the long weekend and wanted to tell me beforehand (she is starting to show).

So on Thursday I run into her mom and she says hello, but basically kept walking.  Now this woman was at my DH's surprise party at the beginning of the month and was completely normal to me (it was after the m/c and everything).

I also talked to her sister yesterday (both of the girls were in my wedding) and we chatted for a little while and then she said some vague - "well I hope we get to see you this weekend..." but did not attempt to make any plans.

I mean I don't know if they are trying not to upset me or if they don't want me around because they are afraid it might be awkward.  Which I get that it might, I might have a hard time, I might cry.  Right now I just feel like they don't want me around because heaven forbid maybe my friend could "catch" that fact that I've had 2 miscarriages. 

I know I am being crazy, but it is hurtful.  How about you just say that you feel bad and don't want to upset me, but would like to see me?  No, they are just avoiding me like I have the plague.

 

CashewsMommy

I'm so sorry hun! Some people just don't know how to act or behave after a loss, let alone 2 losses. I hope it gets better with them! (((hugs)))

noah-bear

I have a friend doing that to me now as well. We were neighbors and she is due a week or so before I would have been. She hasn't spoken to me and stopped asking us over.

auburn76chic

I'm sorry and I have had similar things happen to me. You really learn who your real friends are during a time like this. I have had several people not even contact me after they found out.

spincat9

I'm sorry, that's so hard.  I guess some people just don't know how to behave when someone is grieving so they just distance themselves.  It's a shame.