NSelchert
mandaphilly
member
Although there are many things I wish I could say, I am going to take a breath and give you a piece of advice.
I was in a tough situation, when I tell you that I smoked pot everyday and drank every night, I did it way too often. I was 16 when I found out and had my daughter when I was 17. Now I am 18. I found out I was pregnant between 6-8 weeks, I can't really remember the exact week. But I knew that I had to stop everything because I had a baby inside of me. Even though I didn't exactly know why it was bad for the baby at the time, it was just common sense that it was bad to be doing those things while pregnant.
Obviously I am a single mother, and I do NOT get help from the father in any way shape or form. I do not take welfare from the state. The only thing that helps me is WIC and health insurance. I have a job at Dunkin Donuts, but recently just got a new offer from Citizen's Bank making a ton of more money.
I am starting college in fall and getting all my degrees in Social Working, unless I change my major. I turned my life around.
My daughter was my first motivation to stop all the bad things. After I got out of the horrible situation I was in, I seek-ed counseling. It took me a few times to find one I connected with. After I overcame the issues of what happened to me with my daughter's father, my counselor helped me take the next steps in life with work and school, etc etc.
Please, stop smoking RIGHT NOW. Don't give us the *** about ''Oh I'm working on quitting'' Do it now before it is too late. Please, if I can do it, you can too. Seek counseling and don't stop until you have found one that understands you.
You can turn your life around, God allows U-turns.
Re: NSelchert
I have stopped.. I say working on quitting because it will always be a temptation because around here it is easy to find so it's always going to be a process. I mean if you stopped smoking cigs or drinking for 2 months to count that as that you have quit or still quitting because there is always that chance of relapse? Idk I guess I have to be sober longer for me to officially say I have quit. Maybe most people count it from day one, idk.. but that's just me. I want to make it to 6 months before I can say I have quit because I think by that time it won't be a temptaion anymore if I can go that long with out it ya know? People quit all the time.. then they start again.. I guess I just want to maintain a bit of time if that makes any sense.
And my treatment starts in 2 weeks which will also provide counseling and parenting classes.I'm working on turning my life around. It can't be done over night, it's a process.. you even said so yourself.
Me too, except I was pregnant. But I quit cold turkey and never had any urges.
I didn't smoke it out of habit.. I used it as a coping mechanism. So as long as I have to keep coping with the issues I am dealing with, it's going to be a temptation. Hence why I am working on my issues. Once I get a handle on things it won't be a problem. THAT is the process.
Obviously is was enough of a problem for an intervention...and you didn't think you had a problem then... mmmm
Of course pot can be addictive. One doesn't experience "withdrawal" from gambling but it can still be a powerful addiction.
Where are you people getting your brains from?
THIS.
THIS.
whoa! do you know this girl? wow. just wow.
Pot can me mentally addictive. Just because one person could quit cold turkey doesn't mean that others don't have problems. If you don't have methods to cope with stress that replaces the pot, you crave that relaxation. Ask any therapist.
I quit smoking cigarettes after trying once. I smoked for 10 years, 2 packs at the end. Because I quit easily does that mean it's easy for everyone? No.
That's awesome for you, but not everyone is religious, so that advice does nothing.
It is awesome for me, and I am very thankful. But I was NEVER religious, questioned God often, etc etc. I was born and 'raised Catholic, but never went to church or anything like that. Now I am a newborn Christian. I understand your point about not everybody believing, but I was there, and I reformed. Idk... my point is that it's not impossible to not be religious one day but the next day God can change your life.
I have a very hard time telling people to "seek God" because many people aren't receptive to that kind of advice. I understand your desire and duty as a Christian to spread the Word but sometimes I think the SP board isn't the best place to do it when you don't know the person you are talking to personally. I was never receptive to that sort of thing. I had to come to it on my own through conversations with a close friend about her beliefs.
But people throwing a "prayer can change your life!!" really does a person who has no interest in becoming religious any good. And, to be honest, it can turn them off to what else you might have to say that is of more use to the person.