How did you work it?
Nanette is ready to be discharged tomorrow, and will be rooming in the parenting room with me tonight while DH stays at home with the animals and does all the last minute cleaning. We are anticipating Maggie being discharged Sunday or Monday
I hate having to take one home and leave one here by herself, but I see the benefits of taking just one home too. I'm not sure if I even have the option to room in with Nanette until Maggie is ready to be discharged, but I'm not certain that would be best anyway.
Please share your experiences and any advice you have to offer. I'm soooo not sure what to do!
TIA!
Re: If you had to take one home before the other...
DS was in NICU for 26 days and DD was home with us. It was hard, DH took off from work while he was in NICU so I had him home with me, I don't know if that is an option for you. He was able to take care of her, while I was with Jake and then we would switch in the waiting room. We saw Jake 2-3 times during the day, in the morning, lunch time and then around 7-8 at night before we went home (he was at a NICU 2 hours away from home). We called during the day and when we got up in the middle of the night with Addy since it was less busy during that time.
Rooming wasn't an option for us, they had 2 rooms for that and they were the same as a jail cell and there were no private rooms. I would check and see if you can stay up there in the hospital, especcially since Maggie may be coming home on Sunday or Monday. I hope they are both home together soon!
I took my two girls home a week earlier than my son. It was tough because I didn't want to leave the girls with anyone but my husbandfor any extended period of time. Me and my husband would alternate days going to see him. He would go straight from work and then on my days to visit, he would stay home with the girls while I went up to visit.
***Twin fraternal girls born at 35w6d in 12/2008***
This is what I'm hoping for Maggie. Nanette is such a feeding champ that in comparison to her, Maggie looks like she's lagging behind. But in reality, she is doing really well for her gestational age. I think that some of the nurses aren't as patient with Maggie and give up on her when she just needs a small break before finishing her bottles, while others seem to get it and she ends up doing wonderful. Hopefully, without her sister there, she'll also get a bit more attention too.
BFP #2 10/13/2009 on our 2nd Wedding Anniversary
Discovered TWINS during the 6w u/s - what a shocker!
Delivered on 5/19/2010 at 34 weeks due to pre-e and HELLP syndrome
The Bump MoM Recipe Collection
Lucas came home after 23 days and Elena came home after 38 days. It was a very long 15 days. I would wake up in the morning, feed Lucas, go to the hospital for a couple hours, come home and shower, spend some time with Lucas, go back to the hospital for another couple of hours, come home and shower, go to bed, wake up, and repeat. I felt very divided and very frustrated with everything. I think that's when my PPA/PPD really kicked in but it was lingering. I hated my situation, I didn't know where I needed to be, and I felt like I was giving one kid more love than the other!
I know this sounds discouraging but Elena got sick so she was there longer than she needed to be. I am positive that Maggie will be home in no time! I had PPA/PPD so that really affected my whole situation. I wish you luck and I am sure it will be easier on you.
The plus side was that Nate got a lot of bonding time with Lucas which he really appreciated. I also got alone time with Elena which I appreciated.