My SIL knows my husband and I want to give birth at home. She is not happy about it. She hasn't been mean she just feels the need to tell us repeatedly about her concerns (she also thinks we should vaccinate). She has zero faith in my ability to give birth on my own. This week we found out we lost our baby and I had to have a D&C. She seems to think this should change my mind. I can't figure out what the two have to do with each other! I feel like she's insinuating there is something wrong with me. I know everyone experiences negative remarks when they plan a natural birth. Has anyone had a loss which made people even more insistent that you won't be able to birth naturally? What do you say to them?