need Toddler/pregnant mama advice
DD has been not quite herself recently. I am chalking it up to her age, her teeth coming in and the fact that she follows that theory that every six months she is an angel, then the next six months she works every nerve.
I am 6 months pg, feeling big, feeling tired and having a hard time picking up DD because it is starting to hurt my back.
Last night when I picked up DD from daycare, she climbed into her car seat, and then promptly scooted over the other side and flopped on the empty seat and laid back and looked at me.
I asked her nicely to get back into her seat so we could get home. NO (not obnoxiously defiante, but more like - "haha, you can't make me"). We need to get home so we can go see Daddy. NO.
So now I am getting frustrated because my back is hurting and I can't go get her. I tell her that I don't want to start counting (sometimes that helps encourage her to action). PAUSE - nothing.
Luckily, one of her favorite teachers walked by and said good night to DD. I told DD that Ms. T wanted her to get into her car seat. Ms. T helped me out and encouraged DD to get into her seat. She finally did.
What should I have done instead? What should I have done if Ms. T didn't walk by?
I feel like I am getting frustrated more quickly with her and not able to think of things that will work to get her to action. We are having this issue every night with teeth brushing, putting on jammies, even going potty. Everything is a fricking battle. I know it is the age, but with being pg, it is just much harder because I just don't have the energy to work with her.
Any advice is appreciated, especially from mamas who have been there!
Re: need Toddler/pregnant mama advice
You're not alone! I completely understand this! I feel the same way some days. I've been trying extra hard to tell her what we're about to do and to make games out of things that she's resistent to. (But my DD is a few months younger than yours.)
My back started hurting really early in this pregnancy - partly from the pregnancy and partly from carrying DD all the time. My MW suggested a chiropractor which has made a HUGE difference. And I'm taking a yoga class once a week and that seems to help too.
You describe my last three months of pregnancy perfectly. I don't have any brilliant advice. There were a few times I had to give in and put DD in her carseat, force on her clothes, etc. But as much as possible I tried to find strategies like the one you found with Ms. T or I deferred to DH to help me. He became a big player in the morning and bedtime routine and she actually was better at listening to him, too.
No specific advice, just hugs. Just keep trying new things, because lord knows even if something works today it isn't going to keep working. ;-)