Anyone with 4 kids?

manyquestions

I am not sure what board to post this on, so I picked this one. 

Is anyone out there pregnant with their 4th child? 

I keep going back and fourth about having a 4th.  We have 3 wonderful little boys and I always thought I wanted 3 kids.  Then after our last son was born, I wanted a girl.  I wanted our sons, but also wanted a girl.  So I got some information on adoption.  Then one day, I thought, maybe I would like one more, boy or girl.  I am still not 100% on this and neither is my husband.  We always just thought it would be 3.  I didn't want my kids to have to share a room (and they will if we have another).  I just nevere pictured myself with more than 3, but for some reason, I keep thinking maybe.  I have not ruled out adoption, but have thought about possibly just having my own.  I could do either, and would certainly like a girl, but would not be depressed if we had another boy. 

I just keep waiting for some sign that says we should do this.  Does anyone else out there have 4?  If so, did you always know you were going to have 4 or did it just hit you one day? 

I love my boys so much and know I have enough love to give another one, but don't want to take anything away from the kids I have now.   

I go back and forth everyday!

AngelaSue

I'm expecting my fourth in September. We always knew we wanted a large family and are very excited for the arrival of another baby. We would love to have more, but I've already had 3 c-sections and my doctor is recommending that we call it quits after this. So we may adopt or do foster care someday when our kids are a little bigger.

jettagurl

I have 4, but #4 came with #3, so it wasn't a decision to be made. (And you could get #5 with #4, just sayin'!)  

We planned on having 4 to start, then were almost done with 2.  We decided we'd go for #3, and that would likely lead to #4.  We got pg that month.  We knew after the first two that we would not do any type of fertility treatments...so if it didn't happen we'd be done.  We also set a limit of about 3 years, so that there wouldn't be too much of an age gap.  We have a 19mo gap and a 22 mo gap, and I love that.   

I have 2 boys/2 girls.  I can't say what I would've done if the first 2-3 were same gender, but if you truly want a girl...you have to know in your heart of hearts that you'll be okay with another boy.  

As for adoption, we've considered that as well....but it will be years down the road.  I need a break from diapering after the twins are done!   My cousin has domestically adopted 3 children - 1 biracial, 2 black - and never had to wait long once they were ready to adopt.   I know nothing about your situation, but if you were going to go for domestic adoption of a fair skinned girl, it can take a few years (per my cousin). 

GL!   

Chrisy-Wyobride

I don't yet...but I plan to.  I always wanted at least 4 kids...& having 3 girls sealed the deal w/ DH too.  We may adopt but that's always been on our minds before even having one child.  I'm giving myself a break for a couple years & then we'll go from there.

Me?Married?

I have 3 skids with DH and we also waffled on having one of our own.  Ours are 13,10,6,and now 2.  Sometimes I think we were nuts but the other kids love DS.  The things we have trouble with are the big age gap and the gap starting at 13.  Teenagers are just moody if they don't get their way and seem to want to pass the mood on to everyone else.

Ask yourself this...Did having kid 2 or 3 take anything else away from 1 or 2?  I bet not...