How do I get over the the fright?

elizabeth6258

I am terrified at the thought of double duty for everything, especially with the cost of day care for 3 children. And if the babies sleep like my son did (up every night until he was 1) I will possibly loose my mind. How did you moms with a child already get through? Was it as hard as I am thinking it will be? TIA for any advice.

mollymay38

I am really anxious as well. I still can't believe we will have twins and a toddler. It's nice to know there are so many others on this board in the same position. Hopefully I'll learn from them.

tmbuchmann

I don't have any answers for you but wanted to say that your not alone, everything you said is exactly how I'm feeling as well.

anna2006

I'm right there with you, sister!  Some people on this board have used the Babywise system.  I am reading the book now and you might feel more "in control" if you read it, too.  Keep in mind that I haven't had my babies yet, so I might be deluding myself, but it will at least give you some peace of mind during your pregnancy!

kaiteedidit

No advice from me either, but I am feeling the same way. I'm not even sure I will be going back to work because daycare for 3 children will make that pretty much pointless. 

I am praying these babies sleep better than my DD, she had her nights and days mixed up for about 5 weeks, I can't imagine having a toddler and dealing with the babies being up all night.

I just try to keep telling myself it is a really short time and it goes fast, before we know it they will be one and we will be wondering where all that time went. Good luck! 

lindsaydtobeb

Right there with you!! The twins will be my first so I have no idea what's in store, but I'm so anxious and how difficult the first few months will be that it makes me tear up thinking about it sometimes. LIke right now!

SoldiersGreenBean

Quite honestly, it's been so much easier this time around.  Even with two.

I don't know if it's because we're more confident in our abilities, we're less easily frazzled, we know that this phase will end eventually, etc.  But it's easier, on me, him, and us.  Even with a toddler.

elizabeth6258

Thank you so much for all your replies, I feel better that I am not alone in my fears.

carolina1178

i try not to stress about it and have to believe that will just take things as they come and figure it out :-P

some days it scares the crap out of me but what can you do?

I am sure some days will be harder than others but I also like to think that at least we have some clue what we are doing/in for since we have ds, we learned alot! I sometimes think I would be more scared if twins were my first babies :-P

you will be able to do it!! we might go a little bit crazy in the process but those precious faces will make it all worth the stress and sleepless nights :-)

GymDogFran

Another scared MoM-to-be here!  Sometimes I'm jealous of the singleton moms who can enjoy being pregnant without "double the worry"!  I am especially scared about the day care costs.  I knew it was expensive, but HOLY MOLY, it is outrageous here.

I joined the local MoMs group (www.nomotc.org) and have already been to a meeting.  It is overwhelming to hear their experiences, but they definitely have LOTs of good advice and reassurances!

nbptbride

I'm really scared as well. DS has always been a handful, but even worse lately. I'm so tired of being hit, bitten, and otherwise beat up on by him and can't imagine what I'll do once these babies come. I feel like I'm going to be spending every waking second protecting them from his temper tantrums. And then the sleepless nights, money, lack of a life outside the house, etc., weigh on my mind as well. We'll get through it. My next door neighbor had twins last summer and has a toddler. Those twins are so much easier than her toddler ever was. She thinks it's because they are used to not having her undivided attention in addition to her and her DH not falling into all those traps that new parents do with regard to sleep, feeding, etc. So there's hope!

amcam24

SoldiersGreenBean:

Quite honestly, it's been so much easier this time around.  Even with two.

I don't know if it's because we're more confident in our abilities, we're less easily frazzled, we know that this phase will end eventually, etc.  But it's easier, on me, him, and us.  Even with a toddler.

 

This makes me feel so much better!  We had a rough time when DS was a baby.  I'm actually most worried about him when the babies are born.  He's been an only child for 3.5 years.