I feel like a crappy mom (whine - really long)

SigmundsGirl

rayskit10:

Cajun_gal:

SigmundsGirl:

rayskit10:

just for your consideration, truitt was "diagnosed" with reflux and put on prevacid. it never helped and, as it turned out, he didn't have reflux. he had a lactose/milk protein. i cut obvious dairy out of my diet and it was a revelation (not to mention helped a ton with weight loss!). it is really impossible for doctors to be 100% sure a baby has reflux and if your pedi isn't very familiar with BFing, he/she might not even think about the food issues. 

I was off dairy, caffeine, and chocolate for a few weeks and didn't notice a change. I added them back into my diet over a week before he started having these problems again. But it couldn't hurt to cut them out again.

I hate to tell you this, but soy could also be a culprit.  I can only imagine how difficult it is to have to cut out those things to try and see if he gets better!   

i took mathis to a homeopath and she was able to tell me where he had food issues. it costs about $200 but the change it has made has been exceptional! i don't know if that is too much $ or too new agey (lol) for you, but i would be happy to give you her info. she is in the heights and specializes in food intolerances.

there could be other, subtle things- gluten, corn, onion. i do NOT suggest doing a total elimination diet, tho. at some point your own health has to come first. point is, the homeopath can kind of point you in the right direction... 

Who knew there were so many things that could upset their little stomaches? The weird thing is he doesn't have any issues taking expressed milk from the bottle, but for the past three days he has been having issues with arching his back and won't stay lached on the breast. And he has gone back and forth between the breast and bottle with no problems since day 1.

kat.in.the.hat

SG - totally random thought.  Are you using nipple cream?  It might be that he doesn't like the leftover taste when he nurses on the breast.

anna_j

You've gotten some wonderful replies, and I agree with everyone else, you're being too hard on yourself.  I'm not type a but I did have a hard time learning that his schedule is very inconsistent.  You can't possibly interract with him every waking moment, and I personally don't feel that you should--it's ok for him to be by himself for a little while.  G sits in his bouncer every morning while I get ready and he loves it! 

About daycare, that was the hardest thing for me.  I was very very nervous about it but it has gotten soooo much easier.  I would recommend maybe dropping him in for a couple of hours the week before you go back to work (unless that's very soon) just to get him used to it, and to get yourself used to it. 

And I also completely agree with somethingchanged, we tried so hard for him that I feel bad complaining if I get overwhelmed.  But I have to remember that just because I tried so hard for him doesn't mean that I'm not allowed to have bad days---this parenting thing can be tricky.

diazzle

I'm so glad you posted this. I have been feeling really depressed and crying everyday.  It seems to get worse towards the end of the week since my husband works crazy hours and gets home at 8pm.  I feel like I do everything and I know that is not true.  He really does help when he gets home so that makes me feel even worse for thinking it. 

It helped me to read all of the comments to your post and just the comfort of knowing that I am not the only one who feels this way.  I get so depressed because I feel aweful for thinking "I can't wait to get back to work so that I can have some 'me' time".  I guess we are never prepared for motherhood and most likely is not what we invisioned either. I will try to day it one day at a time and remember that it DOES eventually get better.