arggg do I HAVE to??

Brougham7-15-06

So for the past 2 years and even beyond that....MIL's mother and her husband never attend anything for myself or for DS (showers, birthdays, baptisms etc)...once in the past few years they came out to dinner for DH's birthday.  They are always "conveniently" sick or ill at that time.  But you better believe that if someone else in the family has a gathering of any sort.. 9 times out of 10 they will be there.  I think the sick/ill card is just an excuse for whatever reason....really, you are not sick every.single.damn time we are hosting something or if it is for us...but not for DH's siblings, MIL etc.

So, I just got done making out the envelopes for DS's 2nd birthday party and did not make one for them.  While it is only a small price for postage, I really really do not want to bother sending an invite to them because they will not RSVP let alone show up....I can absolutely guarantee it.  I just don't see the point in bothering with them because after 2+ years of not RSVP'ing and  not showing up to things...what is the point?  If they get wind of the party and decide they want to come that is fine, but I do not want to "go out of my way" to send them an invite...I don't feel they deserve it!

Would you send the invite anyway even if you really didn't want to?

Stephanie2167

At a certain point you just have to stop trying. Just don't send one.

Meztli

I think I would......I know it sucks because they prob wont reply. But, at least you are the better person for at least inviting them. And why make waves over a 44 cent stamp? JMO

CaitlinJ22

i know my DH would be upset if I didnt send one. I would be happy if my IL's never came to anything LOL. 

noliablue

I wouldn't send one...

Brougham7-15-06

CaitlinJ22:

i know my DH would be upset if I didnt send one. I would be happy if my IL's never came to anything LOL. 

well yea....that goes without saying. haha

AbJams

I would send one. Not sending one seems passive aggressive to me. Don't you want to just straight up ask them why they never come? Or have DH do it?

Qmommy

I wouldn't send one but I'd call or have DH call to invite them.

jen_jupiter

I agree.  I still send invites to family members who never come to our stuff.  Reason?  No one can come back and place blame on you later.  You can always say  "At least we tried and it is up to them whether or not they come."  You are still doing the right thing then.