NPR: Offer letter response help?

joy143dh

Hi ladies!  Can someone help me with a response to an offer letter?   Basically, I am happy with the offer (wish it were a little higher, but it's still a great offer).   I've known the guy (owner of new company) for 10+ yrs.  He's great and was the first to make me an offer... BUT I am waiting to hear from a couple other companies (one is his main competitor).  I don't want him to be upset that I'm considering his competitor (it sortof feels like betrayal), but I feel like I need to disclose it in case he finds out through the industry.  Any advice?  Should I mention it in my response?  He's left me 2 voicemails since yesterday after he emailed me the offer to find out what I think...  ps. The job wouldn't start until July 6.  Thanks for any help!  Joy

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one word: leverage.

Stay clear-headed, say you need 48 hours to consider the offer. If he questions you, then, sure, tell him you are waiting on the details of a possible offer. You don't need to go into detail. You ALWAYS risk losing a job bc of this bantering, but more likely, you can use it as leverage. You are a valuable asset, etc. 

And I'd ask for more. If you take the offer, "I am so pleased and look forward to my new career with xxxxx, but I'd like to be at 87,500 a year"

Susie2005

I agree with VC.  Don't give him all the info, but tell him you need time to think about it.  Ask if the monetary offer is written in stone because you were hoping it would be closer to $XX.  If he outright asks, I wouldn't lie, but you are under no obligation to disclose all the details.

And, you should tell the other company that you have an offer that you need to make a decision on.  It will get them to get their ass is gear if they are intending to make you an offer.

Good luck. 

joy143dh

I am SO glad I posted this.  Thank you thank you thank you for your response.