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Told DH to make Da*n appt to get fixed
This is the last. This pregnancy, although only 7 weeks along has been the worst! Zofran is no help I've had two trips to er for fluids cuz I cannot keep ANYTHING down. I've spent more time crying because I literally cannot DO anything! My house is a mess my poor children have not ate much healthy in the past two weeks. This will be our last child I do not have it in me to do this again!!!! Countin the days to the second tri in hopes for some relief
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Re: Told DH to make Da*n appt to get fixed
I hope that you get some relief from your discomfort, and that you're able to keep things down soon for you and for your LO.
I also hope that this is just the rantings of an emotional woman, because I know that I've been emotional lately too.
But, at least for me, it's a little hurtful to come on here and talk about about your pregnancy like it's a gift straight from HE*L. There are many women (myself included) that had to go through a lot to even get pregnant at all, and many more women who have lost their LOs who would give anything to have a messy house because they're just too tired.
If you truly don't want more, there are steps that you can take to prevent it even if your husband doesn't go get 'fixed'. Birth control, tubes getting tied, essure, not having unprotected sex...etc.
Good luck with your pregnancy.
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I hope you start feeling better. Your post sounds very hateful toward your husband and unborn child but I can imagine how constant sickness and exhaustion can cause a judgement lapse and general emotional breakdown here and there.
princesscm99 and others: not everyone looks forward to martyring themselves on the alter of pregnancy, regardless of what they went through to get pg. My heart goes out to those who've had m/c and/or have had tttc, but their presence on the boards doesn't mean others don't get to b*tch about some of the less pleasant aspects of pregnancy.
And if you come back and tell me you wouldn't mind dry-heaving into the kitchen sink constantly, for 12 weeks (or more....and being hospitalized for it), I'm going to call you a lying liar.
OP, good luck, and I hope you find some relief soon. Hang in there.
I guess to each her own. I actually found her post incredibly offensive, even though I completely sympathize with feeling crappy.
I don't think I was rude though, and I also hope that she feels better soon.
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Did it ever occur to you that maybe she wanted to get pregnant, and actually WANTS another baby, but just doesn't like being pregnant? Pregnancy is great for some people, and sucks for others. B*tching about crappy symptoms doesn't mean they don't want a baby, or it was an accident.
So, speaking of idiot.....
How hard for you.
Here's hoping your DH gets snipped ASAP. He must be absolutely miserable.
For real, though, others have covered what I'd like to say. This post is an insult to the lovely ladies we've lost in the past week (and, well, hell, EVER) who would give ANYTHING to be in your position. I'd stand on my head for 10 months if it meant a healthy baby.
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Well, if you're right and she did mean to get pregnant AND has 2 other children, she knows what pregnancy can be like. That's all I'm going to say.
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Sounding off with the line "I told DH to make a da*n appointment to get fixed" doesn't sound like a woman who wanted to be pregnant.
So, speaking of idiot. . .
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Im sorry I missed the part in the OP where she said she did not want to get pregnant. You do know that every pregnancy is different and it sounds like this last pregnancy for her is really bad, so she does not want to have another after this, which is not uncommon.
Maybe you should Chill the F out and read the post before saying she was not using protection correctly.
This is exactly where I am with it, being sick and having to get fluids in the ER is a whole he1l of a lot better than the alternative.
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As someone who was horribly ill from weeks 7-12, in the ER for fluids, and dealt with the less than lovely s/e of Zofran, m/s is the worst. It SUCKS.
OP - I hope you feel better soon, and I'm sorry it has been so hard. I see no issue with you complaining here on First Tri. This is the right board for it.
However, to the bolded: I would be over the moon, 1000% delighted, thrilled beyond to be dry-heaving into the kitchen sink constantly, for 12 weeks (or more....and being hospitalized for it), if it meant I got a baby at the end of the day.
That is the honest truth.
So, speaking of idiot, it sounds like "I told Dh to make a da*n appointment to get fixed" is coming after this pregnancy has made her so sick. I did not read it as her Dh was suppose to get fixed before hand and because he did not she got pregnant.
"She knows what pregnancy can be like" your joking right??? Not all pregnancy are the same. WIth my first i had really really bad m/s, but with this pregnancy I had no m/s.
Please tell me how is pregnancy suppose to be like?
Actually, it sounds like someone who is having a really $hitty pregnancy.
Good try w/ the insult though.
OP: please ignore all the martyrs.
Sooo, before you got pregnant you NEVER ever heard of morning sickness? Or ever heard "horror" stories for other women who have been pregnant? You never had any idea whatsoever of what to expect? Wow, sounds scary.
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Wow. I don't feel like I'm trying to martyr myself just because I don't curse my baby's existence for making me feel bad.
I agree that this is the place to complain, and I have no problem with the OP doing so, as displayed by the fact that I have tried to be understanding and helpful to several woman lately who have written about how hard their time is. I did take issue with the way she did it and felt that it was insensitive. I am glad that you weren't offended, but when/if I came on here and said things that were construed as insensitive by many people, I'd want to know.
Let me spell it out for you: Each pregnancy can be different. Being sick sucks. Being sick, in the hospital, w/ 2 OTHER kids to take care of REALLY sucks. Not everyone looks forward to the idea of severe morning sickness. That doesn't mean they don't want to be pg.
So because you know what can happen you should avoid pregnancy? Because a lot of things can happen such as really bad m/s, no m/s, m/c, late term death, mothers death, and a beautiful baby at the end etc....
It sounds like the OP is not having typical m/s so yes I have heard all the stories both good and bad, but I still choose to get pregnant and take the risk. She choose to get pregnant, to take the risk, and she is having really really bad m/s and that sucks. She is also saying this will be the last for her and that is her choice.
I really didn't see where she cursed her baby's existence. I see where she said this would be her last pregnancy because it has been so difficult.
I didn't see where she cursed her baby's existence, just that she didn't want any more kids after this one.
And insensitive would be posting this on the TTTC, MC, or TTCAL board. Not 1st-tri.
Okay, cool.
We just agree to disagree on this one. She's allowed to post the way she wants, I'm allowed to be offended if I perceive it as insensitive.
Again, I don't think I was rude to the OP, and I hope she feels better soon.
This. I took it as offensive.
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This. Sometimes the sensitivity police get a little trigger-happy.
No, of all the people who were apparently offended, I didn't think you were rude. I can't say the same for others.
GL again to the OP.
Trust me, if I wanted to insult you, you'd know. I was actually mocking you, but understanding dry wit takes an IQ you might not be familiar with.
Now let's talk about some logic for a moment. The opening line - the very title of her post - is "I told DH to make the da*n appointment to get fixed." That in and of itself indicates "it's my husband's fault I'm pregnant" and "I do not want to be pregnant." If she didn't MEAN that, she would've sounded off with "I'm so sick" or something along those lines.
I've learned over the past several years to be very careful about what I say, lest it haunt me later. Because that SUCKS. And thinking "I'd give ANYTHING to make this sickness stop" followed by bleeding out your baby is REALLY hard.
If the OP is feeling ill and fragile, I'm sorry. M/S DOES suck. But in the past year I've lived through "sucked so much worse". I'm not playing a martyr. I'm just saying that while barfing until you dislocate your sacrum sucks (I've DONE THAT!!!), losing your baby sucks worse.
And that's not martyrdom. That's truth.
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Lay off of it. Seriously this isn't the place.
Lay off of it. Seriously this isn't the place.
It is true. We should stay among our own who understand the insult of a person taking their pregnancy for granted.
I don't believe everyone should be chipper and cheery all the time. But if you don't feel well, why not "Oh, I feel awful" or "I can't wait until 2nd tri." Why open with "I told DH to get fixed" which says "I didn't plan on and am not interested in being pregnant."
That's why I reacted the way I did.
I will now stop reading the thread, because you're right. This isn't the place.
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If you are going to quote the OP then maybe you should do it correctly since a single word can change the meaning for some.
It is, "Told DH to make Da*n appt to get fixed" no "the" so it sounds like she was indicating that because this pregnancy is really bad her Dh will be getting a appointment to get fixed. Not that her husband did not get fixed in time.
I am truly sorry for your lose, but you can not compare your loss to her feeling sick post. She did not come on here and say "I wish I was not pregnant" or something along those lines. She said she hates being sick and is counting the days until she reaches 2nd tri so hopefully she will start feeling better.
OP: I hope you start to feel better soon.
To all the ladies that struggled to get pregnant, I sympathize with you DH and I went through hell and back to concieve our son. But that does not give you all the right to give this poor women grief aver being sick. Severe morning sickness SUCKS and to be dealing with it while also taking care of 2 children doubly sucks, I would not wish this on my worst enemy.
No where in her post did she curse her unborn child or say that the child was not wanted she simply came to a place where she thought she could vent without being criticised. Give her a break.....
Again, she never said she wasn't grateful for this baby. And how they choose their family planning for future children is their business. If their form of birth control involves DH getting "fixed" then that's fine. Lots of people use that as BC.