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Do You Think Having Had IF...

will make you more of an overprotective parent?

thoughts???

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Re: Do You Think Having Had IF...

  • I definitely feel that I may be that way! Almost because I feel like we have to work extra hard for the prize, and I would be devastated if anything happened to s/he!
  • LCB34LCB34 member

    I can say that it has made me more of a worry wart while pregnant.  My "innocence" about all of this was stolen with my IF diagnosis and first miscarriage.  I am on edge about everything but try to keep it in check so I don't come across as the annoying pregnant woman.

    As far as parenting goes - yes, I think I will be a bit more protective - but I know this is most likely my only baby and I really want to cherish it all, make sure she has everything we can provide, and protect her as much as possible.

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  • We were actually talking about this on Sunday.  I'm not sure I'll be overprotective, but I do worry that we will excessively spoil/pamper this child because of everything we have been through.  Sadly, we know that we will stop after our first success cycle, so unless we have multiples, our LO will be an only child.
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  • I don't think overprotective... but I do think I will be a much more dedicated parent that I probably would have been.
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  • Yes and it kinda scares me. I know I will never be a normal parent in one way or another. 
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  • imagesteveandkim2:
    We were actually talking about this on Sunday.  I'm not sure I'll be overprotective, but I do worry that we will excessively spoil/pamper this child because of everything we have been through.  Sadly, we know that we will stop after our first success cycle, so unless we have multiples, our LO will be an only child.

    This....I'll have the world's most spoiled-ahem, loved-child ever. 

  • Possibly. I'm sure I'll be overprotective but I'm not sure that it is because of IF. It is just my personality--I'm way overprotective of my dogs Embarrassed

     

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  • Gosh, I can't even think about it.  I have had a really hard time imagining myself as a parent lately.  Its as if I don't want to jinx anything.  Sad, I know.
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  • No.  I can't stand whiny or helpless people and will not willingly participate in any action that would facilitate my offspring becoming like that. 
     
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  • imagemadelyn07:

    Possibly. I'm sure I'll be overprotective but I'm not sure that it is because of IF. It is just my personality--I'm way overprotective of my dogs Embarrassed

     

    This....agreed!  I think I will be more appreciative as a mom than if I would have conceived right away like we thought we would.  

  • I think more than anything I'll just be a train wreck while pregnant. But I could see being more appreciative and a little more overprotective as a parent.

    I have a client that went through IF and we talk about it often. She has 11yo twins and on Monday was talking about how she never thought she'd be able to celebrate mother's day but now it means more to her than it ever would have had she not gone through IF.  

    lap 9/09= mild endo & PCO (but not S) SA= normal IUI #1-#4= BFN IUI #5 cancelled- too many follies IVF #1 = BFP
  • Considering how overprotective of a pet-parent I am, I can only imagine... lol!
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  • Probably not, but I'm already pretty chill with O, so that might skew things.  I will, however, be the most uptight PG person ever.
  • DrVWifeDrVWife member

    Heck yes!  My DH and I have already decided that I will not work while pregnant (and I am not working right now, knowing that we have another cycle to go through) because I don't want to expose my unborn child to any chemicals, toxins, or diseases.  I am a dental assistant and there are lots of stuff that we use on a daily basis that you should avoid if pregnant.

    Once our child is here...can you say bubble wrap?  Just kidding...kind of.  I am planning to be a SAHM and while we will use babysitters...I will be a wreck those first few times.

    I agree that IF takes away so much of the innocence of pregnancy and parenting.  We try for so long and put so much financially into having our...in some cases...one chance at having a child, that once it does happen we do everything we can to protect it.  And flame me if you will...but I think having gone through IF is going to make me so thankful and appreciative of becoming a parent, moreso than the 16 year old who got KU on a one night stand.

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  • It is a joke in my family that my child will never be allow to do anything wrong without me telling them how stubborn they were when I was trying to get pg.   I don't think I will tell them about IF until they are at an age when they themselves are ready to start a family. 

    When I first started ttc I thought, having a baby will be so much fun and I think this would be a good time so lets start trying.  Now that it has been so long I fully in my heart am ready to bring a child into the world and be a parent.  As much as I hate that I am dealing with IF, it has taught me to be a stronger person and improved the strength of my marriage.  Okay, IF I AM READY NOW... bring on my baby! lol

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  • This is the topic of my thesis, and so far, my findings say No.  Of course there could be a flaw in the measurements used, the sample, etc.  I am so interested in this theory.
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