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Calling someone out on FB about party invite?
One of my friends on FB had her daughter's b-day party at a nail salon. She posted a few pictures and now people are telling her she is rude for not inviting their daughters!
I'm guessing the party was $$$ and she couldn't invite everyone - including cousins?
So, when you plan on a party how do you avoid people's feelings getting hurt?
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Re: Calling someone out on FB about party invite?
True, I guess she opened herself up, but I'm guessing that if her "cousins" weren't invited, than they probably aren't close?
I'm thinking it's mom's feelings that are hurt, and I can sympathize, but I don't think I would address it on FB.
Tacky. I only invite one child for each year of my DD's age, since she just about flipped her lid when I invited a bunch to her second birthday. I just find this works well. DD is also in school and has a lot of friends from the hood. I never get upset about not being invited to a birthday party, an adult party under the guise of a birthday maybe, but I would never say anything.
You can't invite everyone to every party. I almost never invite my BFF to our evening parties because her DH and mine don't have all that much in common. It is fine. I am fine with not being invited to her parties too.
No one who uses Facebook to call anyone out on her "rudeness" for lack of a party invitation can be considered an etiquette queen.
Seriously, it's rude to point out rudeness.
While I can understand why their feelings were hurt (especially if they are cousins who normally do celebrate together, even if we are just talking about the mom's feelings here), I wouldn't bring it up on facebook. I actually really hate this aspect of FB, that I can see every single thing some people are doing, and sometimes I'm surprised I wasn't invited to this or that (and without FB, I wouldn't have even known about their get-together/party/whatever and could have been blissfully unaware). But FB to me is a place to keep it pretty light, or to only share things *publicly*...I would never "call someone out" in front of all their friends and family like that, ever!
Even just today, some mutual friends posted about a playdate they had for their two babies...and they've done it quite a few times recently and not invited me and my son who's close in age. I only once made an off-hand comment on FB about it, but other than that just asked one of the girls in person when we were hanging out. She was like "oh, I didn't even think about them being so close in age, like in the same school year!" and that of course they would include us next time....and then she said the same thing to me again just late last week. Then I get on FB today and they got together again TODAY and didn't invite us
So I won't bring it up again, it's just weird. But I hate that I know about it and that it's bugging me!!!
The mom of the party girl could have used a bit more tact and just emailed pictures to the people who went and not broadcasted it to others who might have gotten hurt feelings. I also think it is rude to call someone out about the situation on FB. Were they truly upset or just kidding her about it?
The comment read "nice pics . . . I'm sorry, but I have to call you out on this and tell you how rude it was not to include K's cousins who are girls and would have loved to attend."
When she originally posted about the party, the mom commented, "I gues X & Y's invitation got lost in the mail?"
This. My philosophy is that it if an adult is going to get offended about a CHILDS b-day party, then they are totally over reacting.