suggestion for the passive aggressive

princesscm99

I have read a lot of posts lately regarding how people's husband, mother, MIL, best friend...etc. hurt their feelings by not acting excited, or by blowing off Mother's Day, or by doing something else generally hurtful.

Please be an advocate for your own life and tell these people, "So-and-so, when you did -insert action here- it really hurt my feelings."

Chances are, if you don't stop this behavior now it will get worse, and God knows that few of us are going to get any LESS emotional as the next months roll by, so stopping it now is imperative to your mental health.

I don't mean this to come off as preachy, as this was something I had to learn for myself and that I implement all the time now.  If it bothers you enough to tell people about it on a message board, it should bother you enough to bring it up to the person who offended you.

Being preggo is hard enough - stand up for yourself!!

kcl22

I agree although sometimes I like to sulk a little and see if they'll come up with it on their own!!!  But all in all, I agree. 

princesscm99

You know, I do agree that sometimes you just want to sulk, or maybe just vent to people when you think you may be blowing something out of proportion.  But if someone was truly hurtful or thoughtless, I still think that telling them that you aren't going to put up with their rude behavior is completely merited and necessary!

kcl22

princesscm99:

You know, I do agree that sometimes you just want to sulk, or maybe just vent to people when you think you may be blowing something out of proportion.  But if someone was truly hurtful or thoughtless, I still think that telling them that you aren't going to put up with their rude behavior is completely merited and necessary!

Haha but sulking is fun! 

No honestly, this is something I've learned in the last couple years, mostly through arguments with SO because he can be especially clueless.  It's hard when you're younger and you're still self centered by nature.  It's a really nice skill to have to be able to sit down and tell the person what they did that upset you and why.  Even if they don't agree that you have the "right" to be upset it's always good to have lines of communication open.  And I personally feel so much better afterwards.