re the "ive had it" post

SoHopeful

i do feel bad that the she couldn't spend her first mother's day with her dh and LO.  she's a good mom and loves her family and i hate that someone made her feel bad.  my post isn't really about that specifically, though.

my thought regarding that post is how things change the older you get.  i am 31 and if someone thought i looked waaaay too young to have a child i would probably have said....THANK YOU!  LOL!

when you're young you want to look old and pray your fake id works and when you get older you pray to get carded for the one time a year you find yourself at the abc store.  haha!

smellycat15

Yup. The grass is always greener. It works for lots of things. I can't stand my big boobs and can't wait to make them smaller. Girls with small boobs would kill to have big boobs. Its a vicious circle.

twobecomethree

This!!

If someone said that to me I'd giggle like a school girl.

BelleBaby

I feel SO old when I go somewhere that sells cigarettes/booze and they have those "You must have been born before this date" calendars.  It just reminds me how many years before that date I am!  Thanks for that! 

 

sgrl

I practically throw a party whenever I get carded at a restaurant. I know what you mean.

Erin5849

smellycat15:

Yup. The grass is always greener. It works for lots of things. I can't stand my big boobs and can't wait to make them smaller. Girls with small boobs would kill to have big boobs. Its a vicious circle.

This was me until my B cup boobs went up to a D cup after B was born.

I have seen both sides and it ain't pretty (now).

JLSimon1

You guys are cracking me up. 

Thank you for being understanding. My point really was that it was MD and I just couldn't take one more bad comment. From someone who knew nothing about me.

 

 

OSUtiff

Someone will always have an opinion on you as a mother. You are too old. Too young. You work. You stay home. You co-sleep, so on and so forth.

I am 31 and just had my first child.  I work full-time as a high school teacher.  This Sunday at church, in light of Mother's Day, the preacher talked about how mother's should not be pressured by society to "attribute to the family income" but instead "enjoy this season" of your life. Basically, suggesting that all mom's become SAHMs. 

Anyhow, rather than getting all up in arms about it, I took it with a grain of salt. I knew where he was coming from, but I let it roll of my back. 

I am proud to be able to work and still spend time with my family. OP should hold her head proud when people say that she is young, rather than acting immature about it, which solidifies offenders point.

tigergreen

BelleBaby:

I feel SO old when I go somewhere that sells cigarettes/booze and they have those "You must have been born before this date" calendars.  It just reminds me how many years before that date I am!  Thanks for that! 

no joke...I was at the gas station and saw the "you must have been born before" date for cigarettes this weekend...

It was the year I GRADUATED FROM HIGH SCHOOL.

:headdesk:

AutumnBride929

SoHopeful:

 

when you're young you want to look old and pray your fake id works and when you get older you pray to get carded for the one time a year you find yourself at the abc store.  haha!

Laughing In Head

margeincharge2

I disagree a little bit about the age thing. Of course no one wants to look old but I'm in academia and have to teach undergrads and when I look like I could be one of them, it doesn't help my credibility. I usually don't complain but it can be frustrating when you are in a professional setting and look young. Before I went back to school I had the same issues in the business world.

BelleBaby

JLSimon1:

You guys are cracking me up. 

Thank you for being understanding. My point really was that it was MD and I just couldn't take one more bad comment. From someone who knew nothing about me.

 

 

Just remember that most people forget to use their "common courtesy" filter between their brain and their mouth.  Usually they don't mean anything by what they say, it just comes out wrong (or it comes out before they realize that they just said their thoughts out loud!).  Trust me, I've heard my share of unsolicited comments since the boys were born.  Yes, I'm glad they're mine too and not yours, we're pretty sure they're fraternal, you don't need to know if I did IVF to get pg, etc., etc.  They're just curious.  It gets annoying, but I don't let it bother me. 

The only unsolicited opinions that get to me are those from my family (specifically the ILs!).  Don't let strangers ruin your day.  Be proud of being a good mom, no matter what your age is.  I think you hit the nail on the head when you said "someone who knew nothing about me".  Just remember that next time, take your sale, and get home to your baby as soon as possible!  That's what matters.