AW: DH is pissing me off

mrsf123

DH is pissing me off! 

Our hospital has private and semi-private rooms and I want a private one.  I'm the one squeezing the baby out of my vag, I feel the choice is up to me to pay a little extra for the room.  DH spends plenty of money, we're not poor and we have the money to spend for the private room.  I'm *such* a light sleeper that I just feel it's a matter of me actually getting rest!  DH thinks it's too much moeny to spend.  But then, he wanted to play in a sports league this summer, and the cost of that was the same thing!  Ah, he's driving me nuts!  We only get to be in the hospital to recouperate for like 1 night these days - is it too much to ask that I get a room to myself if it's available and we have the money to spend!  Yeesh.

Ok Rant over.  Sorry if I sound like a spoiled brat.  I just think if we have the option and we have the money, why not!

Rachiemoo

you are not acting spoiled at all.  i would probably pay over $1000 for a private room, it is worth it imo.

Hyfagal

I have to agree with you if you have the $ a private room will be worth it. You'll be bleeding like a mofo and won't want to share a bathroom. Let alone being kept awake by another baby crying or less than polite visitors across the curtain.

prostarr19

I agree with you! I'm not very far along but I've already told DH we're getting a private room. He didn't argue with me at all!

izzourclue

I say whatever you need to make the experience of passing a human through your vag more bearable is perfectly reasonable and necessary.  My DH wouldn't even dare express an opinoin about it.  He has already figured out the only right thing to say is, "whatever you need."  Not selfish at all.

hewinked

DH's do NOT get a say on this!  You will be pushing the baby out, you'll be bleeding, you'll be sore, you'll be swollen!  All things that DH will not have to go through.  You'll want privacy.  And DD kept us up most of the first night she was born.  We didn't sleep at all.  I would have felt bad if she had kept another momma up.  And we had visitors all the time, another thing that would have stressed me out---me not wanting to bug another momma.  Get your private room!

welcel

Did you remind him that HE would be inconvenienced by a semi private room as well?  Those first couple of days will be probably the most emotionally vulnerable he will be in his life.  Does he really want to share those moments with a stranger?  Won't he be rooming in with you over night?  Does he really want to room with a stranger?  Maybe playing to his needs will make him see the light.  Either way, I predict you will get your way on this!

mchupie

Yeah if his sports league costs the same amount of $ and he doesn't see a problem with spending that much on something so trivial, then you should for sure get your private room.  Ridiculous.

arissachic

I hear ya!  I want a private room too and luckily the hospital here has all private rooms - can  you possibly switch to another hospital that offers that?  Otherwise if that is a big deal, stand your ground

lilmgirl

Fortunately the hospital we're choosing to deliver all have private rooms.  If they didn't, I would still splurge and get one - I wouldn't care how much more it cost and H wouldn't have a say in it

LittleDucky

I agree- if you want a private room, you should definitely get a private room.  I think this is something that your DH will just have to back down on.  Especially since he was okay with spending the same amount of money on a sports league.  I definitely wouldn't want to share a room at the hospital after I deliver, and if you have the option not to, I think it is unreasonable for your DH to try to make you share if you don't want to.

TobleroneBar

I didn't realize that private rooms were a luxury and not a given.  The hospital I go to has a birthing center with birthing suites where you're in one room the whole time.  There are couches for family and hubby whirlpool bath and a big screen tv.  My DD was born there and man, that was the best time of my life LOL

mrsf123

DH and I just spoke again.  I told him that this is entirely up to me and he has no say in it.  When he has to push a baby out of his vagina, he can decide whether or not he needs a private room!  He backed down and said "I was never saying no. I just want you to think about it since we'll have a lot of expenses!"  I informed him that a private room was a non-negotiable on the "important" list, right up there with a safe crib, stroller and car seat!  Boys are so ridicluous!  At any rate, alls well that ends well!

TexasAmanda

Yay! Happy that you were able to "negotiate" your way to a private room.  It just seems like a must in my opinion.

denise_m

I am so glad our hospital only does private rooms.