Maybe I'm just easily upset...

futuremrshackney

I was outted on facebook by my MIL. I wasn't thrilled, but I was very thankful that she was so happy that she wanted to share it with people. Bigger bummer... Work found out.  I have several coworkers as friends and they saw the post.  So heres what REALLY upset me:

Today I was talking with one of my coworkers who has a 8 month old son. She was asking me various questions about the pregnancy and I was sharing with her how I was disappointed that my first ultrasound wasn't until 11 weeks. She then blurts out "Well how do you even know you're pregnant then?"

All I could think was that she was saying "How do you not know your baby doesn't have a heart beat, or isn't developing, or its ectopic?"  I mean thats WHAT she was asking right?  Why would you even SAY something like that????

I just stared at her... Maybe that was wrong of me, but what was I suppose to say?

littlemac1117

Yeah, that is pretty rude of her. That would have upset me a little bit too, you'd think she'd give you at least enough credit to know your own body and to know how to read a hpt. My advice, just let it go. The next nine months are going to be full of people with dumb advice and rude/ignorant/unnecessary comments. And your 11th week will come soon! Hang in there!

futuremrshackney

Thanks I can't wait to be 11 weeks!

FWIW It wasn't just an hpt. I did have beta levels drawn and did have a first ob appointment... I realize that doesn't mean much in the grand scheme of things that can go wrong. But she knew I had been to the doctor and all of that.  Just seemed insensitive.  I know she didn't mean anything by it, but when you're a worried mommy-to-be any comment like that can get under your skin.

kyrastapp

OMG!  Why would someone say something like that to anyone? Dont take it to heart, most people just dont think before they speak   Congrats and H&H9 months

cheers2302

I don't blame you for being upset either. And that is exactly how I would have read in to her question as well. And I agree, some people just don't think before they speak. She was being really insensitive and should have known better. We all worry, it's normal, however unhealthy for some of us. Congrats and just ignore any more rude comments that may come your way!

morgansfollower

oh my god, what a horrible woman! I can't believe she would say something like that to you, especially because she has a son. We all know the paranoia that we go through especially the first trimester. That is just horrible.

elizabeth429

Wow, No I'd be upset by those kind of comments, too.  Can't people just smile and be happy for you!  Everyone's got a rude comment, and it's just starting, unfortunately.

izzourclue

First, I would flip the eff out if anyone announced my pregnancy to anyone before I did.  Especially on FB.  This is why we aren't telling anyone till 2nd tri.  Second, your coworker is really insensitive.  You would think that someone who was recently pregnant would remember how scary and uncertain 1st tri is and never say anything  so negative.  Like we need to be reminded of everything that can go wrong. 

Just staring at her was the polite route.  I think I would have said, "um thanks for reminding me that my baby could be dead inside me or I could have M/C'd and not known it.  Hasn't crossed my mind except every single day.  What would I do without wisdom and insight from people like you?  I might actually be able to think positive and not be terrified for a minute.  Thanks so much for rocketing me back to reality."  Followed by a giant   I think you are handling everything way better than I would.  Good luck and I am sure you will see a perfect little bean at 11 weeks.