Attachment Parenting
Wha'??? Sears 'humanizing' babies?
Our infants are born human, alert and aware, ready to develop and learn. This article suggests we should allow our LO's uninterrupted time to explore his world, not hitch a ride on ours... https://bit.ly/aaDcJc
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Re: Wha'??? Sears 'humanizing' babies?
I think the author is kind of confused. She says that babies absorb every detail and are always learning about the things around them, but discounts wearing them as lulling them into a semi-conscious state. I'm guessing she's never actually worn a baby, because DS is always much more engaged with what I'm doing and the world around him when he's being worn (starting from when he was a tiny infant). Does she think they learn more if propped on their backs in a stroller or carseat?
I also found it funny that she mentions receiving a strange look when she started talking to another woman's child. I would certainly give a stranger talking to my child a weird look- that doesn't mean I don't talk to him myself.
That's not the first idiotic thing that woman wrote. I disagree with her on soooo many issues. She drives me nuts!
I have read about half of that article she's referring to (cobalt posted it earlier) and as I was reading it, I was thinking that the article validates everything attachment parenting is about - particularly, respecting our children because they are aware of what is going on and they are thinking, feeling beings.
I haven't finished the NYT article yet, but every time I read something by Janet Lansbury, I get seriously annoyed. We have two completely different views on raising babies.
Edit: Okay, maybe not completely different, but we seem to approach things differently. Sometimes I come up with the same conclusions as her, but sometimes completely different. Either way, I try to avoid reading what she writes
Weird interpretation of Sears. I think non-AP principles dehumanize babies. On the contrary, AP believes that infants are valuable people from Day 1 - that they have needs, opinions, thoughts and that what they feel matters.
What does the author of this suggest as an alternative to "shush, hush and jiggle them when they cry, tease, tickle and toss them in the air to make them laugh" - leave them in a cage and let them scream when they're upset? That's how you treat an animal, not a human being.
I read that one & skimmed a couple more posts, got a headache in my eye, & decided not to visit that blog anymore.
Oy vey.
3xParent, are you Janet Lansbury or just a groupie? You have come on this board propagating her blog before on a subject that she/RIE varies greatly from AP. You are misleading in your post titles. You go to other boards and do the same thing, post a link to Janet's blog with your opinion on child raising but don't seem to stick around for a discussion. Just looking at your past few posts it is obvious that you have an agenda, so who the heck are you and what's the point?
Last few posts:
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/36318518.aspx
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/36088561.aspx
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/36088482.aspx
Ugh. Now I'm even more annoyed that I read through that stupid article! Thanks for pointing this out.
Well, supposedly "Janet" herself came to visit our board the other day, which pissed me off (hence my long diatribe in this post regarding babywearing!). At first, I didn't mind her blog and think she has *some* good ideas. But, her manner is rather know it all and off putting.
https://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/36158049.aspx
Way to go detective!
And, oh, OP has been reported.
The first time she was on here and posted an article I read through the blog, she is ANTI-AP. I think that RIE has some good points and have even gone to RIE parent groups but this particular author is full of it. She talks about babywearing being an outrage. This debate with an AP blogger (https://www.janetlansbury.com/2010/02/attachment-parenting-debate-for-crying-out-loud/ - read through the comments too) makes her look looney IMO and I have no idea why you'd recommend anything this woman says to an AP board. 3xparent must be the blogger, or someone with a crazy board crashing agenda.
Whoa, totally missed that! Yes, 3xparent is most likely her AE. She shes says in her bio that she has 3 kids, I bet she trolls all sorts of boards under AEs to get people to check out her blog.
She does have some good ideas and I do like RIE in moderation but I agree with you that she is pompous. She also doesn't seem to be able to even concede that other parenting methods aren't completely wrong.
I do admire her absolute confidence in her superior parenting methods, life sure must be easy when you're the bestest
I'm going to bust out my favorite Bumpie argument for annoying people. "If she has 3 kids, then HTF does she have time to blog and have multiple AE's and troll message boards?" It had to be said. cliched as it is.
Of course she has time - her kids are laying on their back exercising, so that she has time to get stuff done.
Oh, yes, that's right. I believe she even bragged about how lazy of a parent she was on her blog. Makes me feel much better about myself, seeing as how I, you know, periodically interact with my children in between my bumping, blogging (checked out how up to date my blog is lately? hehe!), and trolling other message boards.
WOW! Ouch. I am so sorry. I have no business here, and I apologize. A couple of things --
No, I'm not Janet or even a blood relative.
Yes, I am a groupie and have said so many times. I make no bones about that. Janet has been my parenting guru for over a decade, and I'm grateful.
My site surfing style probably does seem like board crashing. My bad. I love coming here (not here here, but TB generally) when I have a few minutes, and I don't follow up well. That's not good form.
What I'm really depressed about is getting ANY mom worked up just before MDay. For that I really, really apologize.
If you could see me now, you'd see a slightly overweight (okay, very overweight) mom kow-towing to her pc...