NAPR: My good friend is pg and not too happy about it...

sunnyday016

One of my good friends just found out she is pg. She has a 3 yr old DS, and another DS that is the same age as my LO (they were ironically born the same day!) Anyway, she just found out she is pg. She had been urging her DH to get the snippity-snip since her DS2 was born, but he didn't, and the condom broke. She has a history of m/c and is pretty sad, disappointed, scared, and only a teeniest bit excited.

How can I be there for her? What should I say? I want to be supportive and let her know that it'll all work out....I'm rambling. Any thoughts on how I can help?

ErinMSB

sunnyday016:

How can I be there for her? What should I say? I want to be supportive and let her know that it'll all work out....I'm rambling. Any thoughts on how I can help?

I think if she's a close enough friend, that this is exactly what you should say. "How can I be there for you? What do you want me to say? I want to be supportive for you."  And her answers might change day to day. One day she might be feeling excited, and the next day she might be feeling stressed out and scared.  But I hope she feels better about the whole thing soon! And you're a good friend for wanting to help. 

sunnyday016

Thanks. She is a good friend, and I'm sure she'd appreciate those words from me. I know she's extra stressed because her 3yo is in a very tough stage right now. Maybe just a few hours of taking the boys off her hands would be nice.

Sunny1inTucson

Just give her a nonjudgmental place to voice her feelings.

I think that 9 months of pregnancy is a blessing in disguise in many cases. For the people who didn't want to be pregnant but continue the pregnancy, it gives them 9 months (+/-)  to get excited, to plan for it and save money, to get used to the idea of being a parent, etc.

sunnyday016

Sunny1inTucson:

Just give her a nonjudgmental place to voice her feelings.

I think that 9 months of pregnancy is a blessing in disguise in many cases. For the people who didn't want to be pregnant but continue the pregnancy, it gives them 9 months (+/-)  to get excited, to plan for it and save money, to get used to the idea of being a parent, etc.

You are so right about this! 9 mo. is a long time, and your mindset can change so much during that time. 

mrs.baum

ErinMSB:

sunnyday016:

How can I be there for her? What should I say? I want to be supportive and let her know that it'll all work out....I'm rambling. Any thoughts on how I can help?

I think if she's a close enough friend, that this is exactly what you should say. "How can I be there for you? What do you want me to say? I want to be supportive for you."  And her answers might change day to day. One day she might be feeling excited, and the next day she might be feeling stressed out and scared.  But I hope she feels better about the whole thing soon! And you're a good friend for wanting to help. 

This.