My DD just turned one on the 19th of April. We bed share and
breast feed. Our nightly routine goes something like this- Dinner, bath,
lavender lotion massage/naked time, nurse to sleep in bed with me (she
is asleep between 8:-8:30) then I lay in bed with her and watch tv or
read or whatever until around 9:30-10 and then do a few things at night
and am back in bed by 11:00 or so for the night. She sleeps until 8:00am
with a few wake ups but like most of you that bed share I don't even
I work away from home Mon.-Thurs. Mon.-Wed. DD is with a
nanny with another baby her same age. Thursday she is with my MIL. My
MIL has said many times that DD doesn't nap at her house. I just chalked
this up to her starting to take her to her house instead of watching
her at our house (DD has only been going there the last 6 weeks or so). I
figured as she got more comfortable there she would nap better.
However, yesterday my nanny sat me down to talk about DD's sleep habits
and to say they are not working. She thinks that DD is unable to self
sooth (without the boob) and it is getting harder for her to attend to
both kids' needs (especially during nap time). She said that she puts
the other baby down for a nap and then wears DD until she falls asleep
and then she tries to put her down but she wakes up at the sound of the
buckle unclicking. She simply cannot sleep alone.
I feel really bad because I have worked so hard to develop a healthy and secure attachment and I although I love that DD loves me (and my milk) so much I want to her to be able to comfort herself or at least be comforted by others easily. I don't think that it helps that the other baby in the nanny share was sleep trained at 4 months and his parents have him CIO for naps as well. The nanny and MIL know that this is absolutely not allowed for my DD but I can't help but think that that is what they want me to do.
I just ordered The No-Cry Nap Solution and was going to read it and have the nanny and MIL read it as well and that way we can all use the same techniques and provide consistency.
I am wondering if any of you have any other ideas. We are working on a lovey but DD has just not taken to one but I keep trying. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.