My MIL almost got *** slapped last night.

ParadisePrincess

So last night I was bleeding really bad so I called my MW and she told me to go to the emergency room. I didn't want to take Ella for fear of her picking something up so DH had his mom come get her.

A few weeks ago she told me "back in her day" they would give babies sugar water. I explained to her the risks of doing that and how DD was to never get straight water.

 We get to her house after the ER and she tells me "Oh she was really upset so I gave her 2oz of sugar water, she really liked it!"

WHISKEY TANGO FOXTROT

Ummmm didn't I tell you to NOT do that?! I'm the Mama, I make the rules. And she's our freakin' daycare for when I go back to work! Grrrrr. 

I told her AGAIN that it's not safe and can cause seizures and coma if done too often. And I also told her if she puts my child's life in danger again, her life will be in danger as well. Man eff her. 

What would you do in this situation?!

pammi2003

I would have been so pissed!

I'm sorry but I don't give a shiit if you are the Grandmother of my baby, you have no right to give her anything without my approval. It's beyond me why people do this,

cbandjp

I would have been really upset too.  Especially since she'll be watching your daughter.  It's tough since she's your MIL.  If it was my mom, I would feel more comfortable telling her I was upset, but I wouldn't feel comfortable telling the same thing to my MIL.  Hopefully she got the point and won't do it again.

reemarie81

Wow, I would say something!!  You may not feel comfortable so maybe hubby could do it since it is his mom.  I had other types of issues with my MIL and finally said something and now our relationship has changed.  Do it now while baby is little so you can get it straightened out now.  Good luck!! 

TMDMJAOCT07

Choked her, I would have choked her right there!   Augh, me, because I'm a wimp and don't like to make waves with my mil would make dh say something and I would be standing right there to make sure she understands and that he said it the right way.

Back in the day, they did a lot of things that they say not to do now! And of course she liked the sugar water, its sweet, who wouldn't like it?!

Are you ok, is the bleeding resolved?

northhillsbride

She was totally in the wrong for going against your wishes, no doubt about that.

Just an FYI - our pediatrician okayed 2 oz of water at DS's 5-week appointment. We found that DS would be fussy enough to eat another bottle an hour after a feeding. The doc says it's because it helps ease his reflux pain. Instead of giving him the calories of a bottle, he recommended the water (oh and the water helps with the constipation brought on by the formula we use to reduce the spit up).

trapani2be

I'd be looking for daycare, lol.  My inlaws flat out ignore me as well, that's why ds never spends long periods of time alone with them I just don't trust them.

RadicalDreamer143

And this is precisely why we chose a daycare center.  They get paid to do exactly what we tell them to do, and are trained to know that giving sugar water because "they think it's best" is ludicrous.

Meli0604

TMDMJAOCT07:

Choked her, I would have choked her right there!   Augh, me, because I'm a wimp and don't like to make waves with my mil would make dh say something and I would be standing right there to make sure she understands and that he said it the right way.

Back in the day, they did a lot of things that they say not to do now! And of course she liked the sugar water, its sweet, who wouldn't like it?!

Are you ok, is the bleeding resolved?

This! And found new daycare.

anabell0920

Yah I would tell her since it's obvious she doesn't respect you as a parent or your rules for your child I would be finding a daycare!!

Chelle0112

My mom and grandmother tried to tell me the same thing...I made it clear (hopefully) that he's my baby, and what I say goes.  If they were to do something like that, they wouldn't be watching my LO anymore.