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mrs.oz
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I'm losing my Fing mind!
mrs.oz
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DH went on deployment and my whole life has gone to hell in a hand basket. I'm so tired. Oh God, am I ever tried. DS won't nap for longer than 20 minutes. He fights me to get him to sleep. He's been fighting me for the last hour to go to sleep and I just had to walk away. I know he's tired. He's been up for over 3 hours. I swaddle him. I use the noise machine. Nothing works. I don't know what else to do. At this point I feel like I need to get a baby sitter during the day so someone else can deal with him. I feel like the worst mother in the world because my son will not sleep for nothing and it's making me crazy. I already have PPD and take meds and see a therapist for that. I don't have any family in the area. All my friends work full time. I don't know any other mom's because DS won't let me leave the house without screaming bloody murder. My microwave broke today so I have no idea how I'm going to eat since DS just screams and screams so much that I can't even take a piss, let alone cook. What did I do to deserve this?
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Re: I'm losing my Fing mind!
I am so sorry that you are going through this. I don't know that I have any fabulous tips. The one I can suggest, I sleep with the swaddle blanket. We have two so we rotate. Having my smell there seems to help her calm down.
I hope things get better soon! Hang in there.
I don't really have any advice for you, considering I'm in the same boat (typing with 1 hand b/c DS is in the other arm, swaddled and crying/kicking to fight sleep as I'm rocking him).
Just wanted you to know you are definitely not alone.
have you tried putting him in a sling or wrap?
my LO is much calmer when i have him in that. Last week was the first time i was on my own with LO, and I would have gone crazy if I didn't have my moby. He wanted to be held all day, and when i finally was able to put him down to sleep, i just wanted to sleep too.
aaawww.... ::hugs::
Is LO like this every day or just today? I hope it gets better soon.
I have PPD too and I know it's hard.
I'm sending you a PM right now.
Have you tried wearing him? I've heard that helps reduce colic, plus they sleep better when being worn. If you don't have anything like a moby wrap, I would highly suggest you get one. Also, there's a company called Boiron that has homeopathic remedies, and they make one for colic... maybe give that a try?
Hang in there, mama, there is a light at the end of the tunnel, you just gotta keep getting through it, first!
Ok, that really really sucks.
Do you have an infant carrier like a Bjorn or a Moby that DS likes? Can you use it?
Order pizza?
He might be going on a growth spurt or something. My DS2 is CRAZY whenever he's hitting a spurt, he can't be satisfied.
When was the last pedi appointment? Maybe call the nurses, explain what's happening and get some suggestions- that's what they're there for.
GL!!
We tried doing the Moby and he hated it. I have a Beco but he's too hysterical to even put him in it. I'm going to take him for a car ride and see if that helps.
Have you googled happiest baby on the block video on youtube? It suggests doing the swaddle....shushing...swinging. ...etc all at once... have you tried that? I know shushing in DD's while swaying really helps her stop and calm down....
Don't worry... your not alone...if any mom tells you they haven't had these rough days ..they are lying!
Hang in there!
I am so sorry, that is miserable. I use a wrap as well, actually a sling and it calms her every time. I know you said you try the noise machine and swaddle, but do you guys have any sort of routine or schedule? I know before I got her on a consistent routine, she was miserable and unhappy. We used a service called moms on call https://www.momsoncall.com/ and they got us on a consistent feed/sleep schedule. They guarantee that it works, and we have many friends who have had success. It's based out of Atlanta, but they have online webinars. It has worked beautifully for us, and she is almost STTN other than waking for a 2am feed. Being on a routine has made a 150% difference in her demeanor.
If you've already tried something like that, I would call pedi and see if he possibly has colic. They can give medication or try to assess what is wrong, but the constant crying and not sleeping makes me wonder if he is miserable or in pain b/c of something. I would try to get a sitter, you need to have some time to yourself and it will help you save your sanity... Oh and order a pizza and eat and try to relax!
Yup, even took the class and got the DVD. My child hates me.
Oh hon, he doesn't hate you. Not in the least, you're the most important person in his life. DS #1 sounds like you son, DS #2 is so different so I wanted to let you know it's not you at all.
Go for a ride and turn on static on the radio, go to a drive-thru to get some food and drive until he conks out.
You are not alone! My DH is also deployed and I'm dealing with a sleep fighting/over-all cranky baby. There are certainly times throughout the day that I feel like the worst mother too. For DD I used the woombie, white noise, pacifier, and put her in her bassinet at night. It normally takes her a good hour to fall asleep, after playing spit-the-pacifier-out-put-it-back-in.
I've never seen a baby fight sleep as much as DD does. It's horrible and I can totally relate. One thing I've found to calm her down is walking outside. I use a moby wrap or just carry her in my arms similar to how I hold her when she's nursing. She normally calms down and will fall asleep more easily outside.
I definitely feel alone sometimes in having my DH deployed and dealing with a high needs baby. Just know that you are NOT alone and we will make it through this!!!!! That's what I have to tell myself every single day.