What to do about DH's birthday

MoFree

Any ideas for celebrating, or maybe observing is a better word, DH's 31st birthday later this month.  His mobility will be quite limited since he'll still be in recovery mode.

On one hand, I don't want to do anything to upset him since he's still emotionally raw and hates to have mentioned that his survival is a miracle.  On the other hand, he did survive a horrendous car crash, several surgeries and a post op infection which easily could have gone the other way.

I know that just getting him a card and a present isn't sufficient this year.  I was thinking of asking his closest friend and his cousin and family to come to visit if they are willing and able to come over Memorial Day weekend,

Thanks for your suggestions.

k-mart

That sounds really nice! I think that is such a great way to show him how much he is loved and how important he is to everyone. Maybe it will help to lift his spirits having so many people around him at once.

Yellow_Daisy

I think the idea of having some of his family come visit is a good idea.  I would just do a family dinner or BBQ to celebrate him.  He is probably most comfortable around family and like you said even though he doesn't want to talk about what a miracle he is, this is kind of a milestone bday with all he has been through.

Edwina.McDunnough

I think that is perfect.

LCB34

I think having his friends and family come over would be great!

Maybe just send them all an email and let them know that talking about the accident a lot would make your DH uncomfortable and that your goal for the party is to have conversation be as "back to normal" as possible?

I think he would appreciate a sense of normalcy on his birthday and this idea sounds great to me!

QuiltingBee

I think your idea sounds right on.  Good luck.  I hope he has a good birthday!

mrshoppy_1231

I think that sounds like a perfect idea!

patchen30

I think it's a really good idea to have some of DH's friends and family around.  As the pp said, it will make him feel loved and hopefully lift his spirits.  You're a very thoughtful wife.

MontyMrs

Surrounding him with close friends and family sounds like a great idea, I hope he can enjoy his day.

Echloe

Your idea sounds great.  I'm sure he'll love being surrounded by all of his favorite people.

Sunshine05

LCB34:

I think having his friends and family come over would be great!

Maybe just send them all an email and let them know that talking about the accident a lot would make your DH uncomfortable and that your goal for the party is to have conversation be as "back to normal" as possible?

I think he would appreciate a sense of normalcy on his birthday and this idea sounds great to me!

Ditto!  I'm sure he'd like to just have a conversation with friends about normal things, and have a night where we can feel like his old self again.  I think emailing his friends/family would be a great way to get that point across.  Good luck with the party!