pregnant coworker

auburn76chic

I have a co-worker who is due two days after my due date. I don't have to see her that much, so that helps. But today she walked in bragging about her ultrasound pictures, showing them off. I had to walk away. I think I am bitter is because its not fair. She is not married, never wanted children, hates the babies daddy and wants nothing to do with him. She really has a bad attitude. I know I should not feel this way, but its still hard not too. Anyway, just had to get my vent in today.

SmallestWilk

auburn76chic:

never wanted children, hates the babies daddy and wants nothing to do with him. She really has a bad attitude. I know I should not feel this way, but its still hard not too. Anyway, just had to get my vent in today.

I just threw up a little bit. Life is so effing unfair. 

Hope the rest of the day is better for you.

elizabeth&james

not fair, not fair. none of this is fair. thank goodness you don't have to see her too much. i always feel like i'm doing better on the weekends b/c during the week I have to see my just-starting-to-show co-worker who looks like I should have been looking now if things had been different - would have been in my 15th week.  

Buckets of Moonbeams

Please let your anger and bitterness go.  It is not healthy.  All those things you've said about her are irrelevant.  She is allowed to love her fetus, and to be proud to show her u/s pictures.

acast187

i know how you feel i found out the other day that my ex ( who never really wanted kids and always made up reasons why we should wait) is expecting with his girlfriend who isn't a good person! I lost my baby with my now FI at almost 7 weeks and her due date is just a few shy of mine! I cried for awhile of course while my FI was trying to calm me down he said something to me that didn't make sense then but does now... Sometimes people who don't deserve things get them first this doesn't mean you wont but just makes you feel so much more happier when you do... Hope your day gets better and don't forget that you deserve to be happy and you will get that joy back again.

auburn76chic

Buckets of Moonbeams:

Please let your anger and bitterness go.  It is not healthy.  All those things you've said about her are irrelevant.  She is allowed to love her fetus, and to be proud to show her u/s pictures.

auburn76chic

Buckets of Moonbeams:

Please let your anger and bitterness go.  It is not healthy.  All those things you've said about her are irrelevant.  She is allowed to love her fetus, and to be proud to show her u/s pictures.

auburn76chic

Buckets of Moonbeams:

Please let your anger and bitterness go.  It is not healthy.  All those things you've said about her are irrelevant.  She is allowed to love her fetus, and to be proud to show her u/s pictures.

auburn76chic

auburn76chic:

Buckets of Moonbeams:

Please let your anger and bitterness go.  It is not healthy.  All those things you've said about her are irrelevant.  She is allowed to love her fetus, and to be proud to show her u/s pictures.

Sorry about the double post with nothing. Sometimes this computer has a mind of its on.

But yes your right. I don't need to feel bitter, but somedays are easier than others.

rowanthefrog

((hugs))  It really is unfair.  And its so hard to see the people who are due around when you would be.  I'm sorry you have to deal with that.

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Buckets of Moonbeams

auburn76chic:

auburn76chic:

Buckets of Moonbeams:

Please let your anger and bitterness go.  It is not healthy.  All those things you've said about her are irrelevant.  She is allowed to love her fetus, and to be proud to show her u/s pictures.

Sorry about the double post with nothing. Sometimes this computer has a mind of its on.

But yes your right. I don't need to feel bitter, but somedays are easier than others.

LOL, I think it's the bump!

Somedays definitely are easier.  Last week I went to story time with K, and there were 7 women my age there total (a lot of grandparents).  3 had babies under a month old, and 2 had big, pregnant bellies.  Was it hard for me to stay there?  YES!  Did I cry the entire way home?  YES!  But was I angry at those women for their ability to spawn healthy babies? No.  Was I jealous? No.  Did I begrudge them their happiness?  No.

magdalina.h

I agree with buckets.  What helps me to think is that someday I'll be one of those pregnant ladies again and showing off my excitement again.

e_uecker

I know what you mean. I'm the queen of bitter these days. I hate how I feel that way. It's just something that I can't help. I think it's natural for us to feel this way. I hope it passes soon. It's a crippling emotion.