Telling SS about losing his sister

CashewsMommy

DH and and I are picking up his son (10) tonight for the funeral today. We wanted to be the one to tell him about our loss, i'm very glad his mother agreed.

First of all, we were so shocked with how great his mother has been. She allowed us to take him out of school (which we were nervous about), let the school know about it so they sent home work. She also wanted to make sure that the school had a good counselor on hand for when he returned to school on Tuesday incase he had any questions we couldn't answer.

It's going to be so hard, because whenever we pick him up, the first question he always asks me is "How's Aurora?"

We have a 30 minute ride home after we pick him up. So i'm not sure when we are going to tell him yet. I think we'll know what feels right. I'm not even sure what we are going to say. How do you know what to say in a situation like this?

We also taped a show, "When Families Grieve" a few weeks ago thinking it would be good to watch incase something happened with the grandmothers. Never in a million years would we think we'd need to watch it because of this.

e_uecker

I am so sorry you have to go through this. It's really hard to explain to a child what it is going on in the case of a loss. I know this because I was really young when my mom and dad died. I really had no idea what was going on. It's really good to have the counselor for him to ask questions to. There are some things that we just don't know how to answer. I know it was really hard for grandma.

jerriesgirl

You will be in my thoughts as you have to have this difficult conversation with your SS.

SassyMamainVA

I can't imagine how difficult it will be to tell your SS. It's probably very confusing for children. But it sounds like you're as prepared as you can be.  It's nice that his mother has been so great...just one less stressor for you to deal with right now.  Good luck telling your SS.  (((Hugs)))

myst33

I am so sorry. I know that this will be difficult for all of you. It sounds like he will have a strong network of support.  You are in my thoughts.

KMLP

Good luck and I am so sorry about the loss of your baby.  You gave her a beautiful name!

magdalina.h

There is a book that my pastor read during Aidan's service to help explain death to kids.  It's called Water bugs and dragonflies. It's a really good book.