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Lady that was NOT pregnant used the maternity spot at the grocery store last night.

The spot sign says "New & Expectant mothers" I was tempted to use it for the first time this pregnancy b/c I was in a hurry after work & really needed to pee! But there was a spot 2 over so I decided to use that one instead. There was a car coming the other way towards me & they decided to back into that spot. I thought "you better be pregnant or have a newborn" so I hurried out of the car. Ha! This woman was NOT pregnant. She was probably a stripper. I followed her in & when we got our carts she turned around & glanced at my belly. Oh yeah, that's right, I'm PREGNANT! I see that you are NOT.

I was fuming the whole way through the store. Trying to think of ways to get her in trouble (as if that was possible!)

Re: Lady that was NOT pregnant used the maternity spot at the grocery store last night.

  • Maybe she was 8w or something and has really bad m/s or sciatic pain? I don't know, those are always the excuses I see here for using them early...they are a stupid concept, IMO.
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  • hahaha! why do you think she was a stripper?
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  • Is it possible that she just wasnt showing yet?  I have thought about using those spots a few times but afraid of dirty looks I might get because I'm not really showing much yet. 
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  • GRRRR that happened to me the other day at the mall I was so mad! I drove around the lot for like 5 full min and had to park far! I just figured I needed the exercise...but I was still annoyed that I can finally use the spaces for expectant mothers and this GUY was parked in one and a woman with no children and no belly, and the other one I have no clue (there are only 3 spots!
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    How do you know she wasn't pregnant but not showing?  How do you know that she didn't just have a c-section and can't walk long distances but needed to run in quickly and get something.

    Get over yourself.

  • Well, technically, she could have been pregnant, just not far enough along to show.  So, I don't think you can say for sure that she wasn't.

    I think those spots are stupid.  Unless you are on bed rest (in which case, why are you at the store), there is no reason why a pregnant woman couldn't or shouldn't walk the few feet to get to the door.

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  • Those spots are reserved by the store owner out of courtesy for the pregnant/newborn parents, and violation of courtesy does not carry any legal weight (like a handicap spot violation would).  The stores could just as easily reserve spots for blue cars, hybrids, gas guzzlers, etc.  It's up to the customer to decide whether they want to abide by the store's preference or not.  Sorry you ran into someone that didn't "care". 
  • How do you know she wasnt pregnant?
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  • imageGummybear:
    Maybe she was 8w or something and has really bad m/s or sciatic pain? I don't know, those are always the excuses I see here for using them early...they are a stupid concept, IMO.

    i agree. I don't mind walking, and the exercise will do me good. and if you're on dr. orders not to walk long distances, then you shouldn't be going to the store in the first place, where you'll be walking around a lot more than you would be in a parking lot. ?

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    hahaha! why do you think she was a stripper?

    She barely had clothes on & the dress was SO short & super tight. She looked like she was headed to Hollywood, not the grocery store. I'm totally guessing but she pissed me off!

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    Well, technically, she could have been pregnant, just not far enough along to show.  So, I don't think you can say for sure that she wasn't.

    I think those spots are stupid.  Unless you are on bed rest (in which case, why are you at the store), there is no reason why a pregnant woman couldn't or shouldn't walk the few feet to get to the door.

    When it's 110 degrees here & I'm 40w pregnant carrying DD into the store...I'll be using it.

    I wouldn't use it when I'm not showing b/c someone close to 40w needs it more than I do. Or someone with a new baby. Even if I have crappy m/s

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    that is a courtesy spot...not a legal type thing like a handicapped spot would be.

    You couldn't really get her in trouble...although I do agree that she was being very rude.

    (Could she have been recovering from a c-section or something...maybe newly pregnant and having a hard time with nausea?)

    By the car she was driving & the clothes she was wearing, she did not look like a new mom. By the way she was running through the parking lot, I doubt she had m/s.

  • Next time, park in the spot.
  • Those spots are just the honor system. No sense in getting all worked up about it.
  • Good Lord, it's a freaking parking spot.  Give it a rest.

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    that is a courtesy spot...not a legal type thing like a handicapped spot would be.

    You couldn't really get her in trouble...although I do agree that she was being very rude.

    (Could she have been recovering from a c-section or something...maybe newly pregnant and having a hard time with nausea?)

    By the car she was driving & the clothes she was wearing, she did not look like a new mom. By the way she was running through the parking lot, I doubt she had m/s.

    This is exactly why these spots are the stupidest things ever. What if she just had a D&C the other day? What if she adopted  a baby and took her husband's car out for a quick errand? Who are you to judge? Just because someone dresses like a s_lut doesn't mean they are incapable of procreating. And at 21w what if 41w mom came along with a toddler in tow and saw you with your tiny belly getting out of your car with no carseat in it and no other child with you? Is she allowed to be mad?

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    imagesoftskate31:

    that is a courtesy spot...not a legal type thing like a handicapped spot would be.

    You couldn't really get her in trouble...although I do agree that she was being very rude.

    (Could she have been recovering from a c-section or something...maybe newly pregnant and having a hard time with nausea?)

    By the car she was driving & the clothes she was wearing, she did not look like a new mom. By the way she was running through the parking lot, I doubt she had m/s.

    I don't get this statement at all.  What kind of car should an expectant mother drive? A mini van or suv?  Also her clothes are no indication if she is pregnant or not especially if she is not showing yet or early on in pregnancy.  I sometimes run through the parking lot if I am in a rush and I am almost 24 weeks.  Again this makes no sense.  

  • I think you can't judge who is pregnant or not based on clothes, car or how they seem. All types of women get pregnant.. no reason to get mad over it. Most parking lots don't even have "pregnant" spots.
  • imageaforst:
    I think those spots are stupid.  Unless you are on bed rest (in which case, why are you at the store), there is no reason why a pregnant woman couldn't or shouldn't walk the few feet to get to the door.
     
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  • yeah, you can't judge someone by their looks and what they drive. I'm always running through the parking lot at work when i'm late (which is every day) even though i feel like hurling any second.?

    get over it and don't hate.?

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  • I don't know why everyone is getting so upset that the OP was annoyed.  I would have given Ms. Skanky Dress the side-eye too.  Yes, they're only a courtesy spot, but I wouldn't use one unless I was huge and having trouble walking or had just had surgery.  Some valid reason.  As for Mr. Childless Man, he might have actually gotten a comment from me.  Not because I need the spot for myself, but because someone else who really needed the spot (new triplets or something) could have come along and been SOL.  If someone is skipping across the parking lot in a mini dress, they're probably ok to park a little further out.
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  • My DH used one of those spots when we first found out I was PG. I felt so guilty about using it because I didn't need it. I still had all the ablity to not need it. I don't think that it should be used utnil you are further along and the longer walked make you breathless. Unless you REALLY have to pee...
  • imagekrissers:
    I don't know why everyone is getting so upset that the OP was annoyed.  I would have given Ms. Skanky Dress the side-eye too.  Yes, they're only a courtesy spot, but I wouldn't use one unless I was huge and having trouble walking or had just had surgery.  Some valid reason.  As for Mr. Childless Man, he might have actually gotten a comment from me.  Not because I need the spot for myself, but because someone else who really needed the spot (new triplets or something) could have come along and been SOL.  If someone is skipping across the parking lot in a mini dress, they're probably ok to park a little further out.

    The spot says expectant mother, it doesn't say expectant mother at 25+ weeks who have trouble walking, m/s or just had surgery.  The reason people are getting upset is because she doesn't have any real indication that the woman was not pregnant.  She also had a opportunity to park in the spot and chose not too.  So I as well as other are simply asking what's the big deal if you didn't want the spot anyway.

  • I actually used the mother's parking at the grocery store for the first time last week.  I always felt that there were certainly women in greater need than me, but last week it was raining and my back was killing me and my ankles were swollen so I parked there.  I felt like everyone was staring at me judging whether I was justified in using that spot, but that was probably just me.  What really ticks me off is childless men who use it!
  • imagesynchrosally:
    I actually used the mother's parking at the grocery store for the first time last week.  I always felt that there were certainly women in greater need than me, but last week it was raining and my back was killing me and my ankles were swollen so I parked there.  I felt like everyone was staring at me judging whether I was justified in using that spot, but that was probably just me.  What really ticks me off is childless men who use it!

    How do you know they are not one of theose "pregnant men"? You know, like the one on Oprah? Stick out tongue

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    I don't know why everyone is getting so upset that the OP was annoyed.  I would have given Ms. Skanky Dress the side-eye too.  Yes, they're only a courtesy spot, but I wouldn't use one unless I was huge and having trouble walking or had just had surgery.  Some valid reason.  As for Mr. Childless Man, he might have actually gotten a comment from me.  Not because I need the spot for myself, but because someone else who really needed the spot (new triplets or something) could have come along and been SOL.  If someone is skipping across the parking lot in a mini dress, they're probably ok to park a little further out.

    THIS: we all have out moments where we vent about things...that's all she was doing. No need to throw the book at her. I also think the spots are useless...but I also get annoyed when I see a young person driving gramma's car with a handicap sticker/plate park in a spot that may truly be needed by someone with a disability...what are you going to say about that? That the teenage girl might actually drive the Buick/Lincoln/Cadillac and that just because she isnt walking with a cane she might actually be the one with the disability? We all know that isnt likely.

  • It's alright. I think pregnancy spots are ridiculous anyway. Save them for those who physically NEED to be closer to the entrance.

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  • imagekrissers:
    I don't know why everyone is getting so upset that the OP was annoyed.  I would have given Ms. Skanky Dress the side-eye too.  Yes, they're only a courtesy spot, but I wouldn't use one unless I was huge and having trouble walking or had just had surgery.  Some valid reason.  As for Mr. Childless Man, he might have actually gotten a comment from me.  Not because I need the spot for myself, but because someone else who really needed the spot (new triplets or something) could have come along and been SOL.  If someone is skipping across the parking lot in a mini dress, they're probably ok to park a little further out.

    Thank you! I realize my hormones have been making me cranky lately. But I am surprised that I'm apparently the only one that would have noticed. It was weird timing for us to be parking at the same time, walking in, getting carts, it just bugged me. Not that this matters but she backed into the spot like she was used to trying to hide no handicap tags or something.

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    THIS: we all have out moments where we vent about things...that's all she was doing. No need to throw the book at her.

     

    I think most people are reacting to her overreaction.  I mean really, fuming over a courtesy spot and trying to think of ways to get her into trouble? Okay...

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    THIS: we all have out moments where we vent about things...that's all she was doing. No need to throw the book at her.

     

    I think most people are reacting to her overreaction.  I mean really, fuming over a courtesy spot and trying to think of ways to get her into trouble? Okay...

    that i can see...

  • Every time this comes up (how ridiculous the spots are) someone always chimes in:

    But but but, I was 4 wks pregnant so I'm ENTITLED to use the spot.

    OR

    I was in the 2ww, I COULD have been pregnant.

    She might have been one of them _bitches_.

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    THIS: we all have out moments where we vent about things...that's all she was doing. No need to throw the book at her.

     

    I think most people are reacting to her overreaction.  I mean really, fuming over a courtesy spot and trying to think of ways to get her into trouble? Okay...

    Geez..not legally in trouble. I just wanted to write a note or something. I think most of you are overreacting here. You can't tell me that silly things don't get everyone of you upset b/c of all the pregnancy hormones.

    that i can see...

  • I don't understand why everyone is getting their panties all in a bunch, she is just venting!  Who cares if there is the possibility that the woman was pregnant, the OP didn't THINK she was and that is what bothered her! BFD 

     I saw someone doing the same thing at a Babies R Us and was bad mouthing her to my mom and then when we walked past I noticed it was my friend! haha!  I said something to her, but unfortunately, she is lazy and doesn't care!  I don't use them because I don't need them, but I'm sure there are some who do and I think they are a good idea

  • Jesus people you need to lay off the OP...she was venting, have none of you pregnant woman ever had something small and insignificant piss you off??? its hormones..id be pissed too if some woman who clearly didnt need the spot used it, not because i wanted it.. because someone in need might have..and obviously thats not what pissed OP off, she didnt take the spot, she left it for someone in need and someone took it who was clearly not in need... everyone needs to calm down.
  • Pregnancy is not a disability and those spots cannot be legally enforced.  What's the big deal? 
  • that's so cool ur grocery store has those parking spots! i've only seen them at the mall around where I live. 
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