2nd Trimester

What are your fears of L&D?

What are your top 3 fears of giving birth (if you even have 3)? I've been thinking (rather obsessing) a lot about this lately and here are my top  3:

1) Having to have an unexpected c-section

2) Wanting an epidural and not being able to get one

3) Dieing during labor (pretty unrealistic but it's a huge fear of mine)

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Re: What are your fears of L&D?

  • 1) My LO not being ok. 2) Tearing 3) I know it's stupid, but, not getting the "birth" I want. I want to go as natural as possible and have a midwife. If my BP goes up I have to have an OB and I am not sure if a "natural" birth would be as possible.
  • 1) Something being wrong with my little girl

    2) The pain/tearing of an child birth

    3) Having a c-section

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  • 1- having a 4th degree tear again - OUCH
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  • imageJeane_P:

    1) Something being wrong with my little girl

    2) The pain/tearing of an child birth

    3) Having a c-section

    Ditto. Except baby boy.

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    1) The pain...My plan, right now, is to go med free, but I understand that is subject to change...

    2) Something wrong with my LO

    3) Tearing...ouch!

    4) I too, am afraid of dying.  I know it's very unrealistic but it's a fear of mine.  I think because there is just so much to live for now...

     Sorry, that was 4!

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  • 1. Having another emergency csection

    2. Having another NICU baby (both my boys have been NICU babies)  I want to be able to leave the hospital with a baby this time!!

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  • The pain from intense contractions

    Tearing

    Having to get an emergency C-section 

     

  • Tearing.....the rest I think I can handle....but the thought of tearing makes me want to cry....
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  • 1. something happening to baby

    2. having the most minimal medical intervention possible (no c-section, minimal drugs, etc)

    3. timing of labor and delivery---I am scared to death that I am going to go into labor way before I'm supposed to

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  • something being wrong/happening to baby

    not making it to the hospital in time.

  • This! I fear that more than anything.
  • 1.  Repeat c-section
    2.  Tearing
    3.  Uterine rupture
  • 1) Being able to deal with the pain.  I'm planning on going med-free and I feel great about my decision, but I'm still nervous.

    2) That the baby will be stillborn or have an awful medical condition/disorder

    3) Dying during childbirth.  I know it's rare, but it terrifies me the most.

  • Tearing My Dr. Not being available and having to drive to another hospital an hour and a half away because I swear to God I will have this baby at home in the closet before I let the other 2 touch me. My husband being stuck working when I deliver (actually possible).
  • Even though this is my second pregnancy, I still have some fears... biggest one being that my labor moves so quickly that I can't get an epidural.  Next would be tearing.  I was able to get an epidural last time and it was a lifesaver!  I only had a small tear which required only 2 stitches.  I was still uncomfortable for a decent amount of time after the delivery, but I have to say - I don't remember much of the actual pushing, and in any case, the end results is well worth any type of pain or discomfort...  good luck everyone!
  • 1) Having an unexpected c-section

    2) Needing to be induced

    3) Not being able to handle labor without drugs as well as last time

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  • That there is something wrong with LO.

    That I'll need a c-section.

    That I'll tear...but this is about the same level of fear that I have in not getting the birth I want, i.e. that my midwife can't attend and I have a doctor that pushes me to take an epidural, do a c-section, that acts like my concerns are not a big deal, that I'm taking too long, etc. I've met one in my practice already that I'm hoping I don't get during the delivery!

  • 1. Pretty much having any intervention pushed on me. Because I work in this field, I have my own opinions on the cascade of interventions and in my opinion they are just that--a cascade. I'm willing to accept any intervention (anything from pitocin to an epi to a c-section) if it's needed, but I'm not up for speeding things along to make things more convenient for anyone.

    2. 4th degree tears. I have no issue with a small tear, they happen, but a serious one leading to incontinence or other issues is SOOO not on my list of things to do.

    3. Getting put under for an emergency c-section. It's really important to me that right after birth DH and I get to bond with baby: skin to skin contact, nursing, etc, as it really sets the stage and helps bonding and nursing go more smoothly later. I would really hate to miss out on that time in a drug-induced fog.

  • 1)  Dying or losing the baby

    2)  Needing a C-section

    3)  Major tearing

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    imageJeane_P:

    1) Something being wrong with my little girl

    2) The pain/tearing of an child birth

    3) Having a c-section

    Ditto. Except baby boy.

    This- except mine is a boy as well and I'm more afraid of having a c-section after hours of labor.  

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  • imageskyejo:

    1) Being able to deal with the pain.  I'm planning on going med-free and I feel great about my decision, but I'm still nervous.

    2) That the baby will be stillborn or have an awful medical condition/disorder

    3) Dying during childbirth.  I know it's rare, but it terrifies me the most.

    This, worded exactly.  Skyejo...you read my mind!

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  • I have no fears this time around. I had the best labor experience with DS. It was quick and easy. the only thing I am going to do different is get the epidural as soon as they offer it because with DS they offered it to me like 4 different times and my pain wasn't bad so I said I would wait longer. Well, my contractions started to relax a bit so they gave me pitocin and OMG the pitocin contractions hurt like a B*TCH!!! my contractions went suddenly from manageable to horrible in the split of a second! It was as if they turned the pain light switch on! To make matters worse, I had to wait to get the epi because the anaesthesiologist was busy when I requested it. So I learned my lesson and this time around I am going to get it when they offer it.

    For those of you that are afraid of an episiotomy or tearing, its really not bad (unless of course you have a super bad tear). They did an episiotomy on me but I still tore a bit internally because DS came too fast (In fact, they were telling me to try to hold him in! LOL). I was afraid of the pain I would feel afterwards but I really didn't feel anything except for the normal aftermath of labor. I really hope this time around I am as lucky because I do not want a C-section. 

  • 1. Something going wrong and the use of a vacuum, forseps or emergency C section (and obviously the reprecutions to that [Cp, brain damage, epilepsy])

    2. The catheter they use for the epideral.. (I know its irrational, but Im terrified of a tube in my spine)

    3. Embarassment, Im a pretty private person.. I know this is shallow and not realistic, but I know I will humiliated if I fart,throw up, poop or pee while dilivering... and I mean knowing my luck, I will do it all

    (I also dont want anyone but the doctor to see my wahoo.. I really dont want my DHs memory of our first child being born, ripping apart my lady parts)

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  • imageskyejo:

    1) Being able to deal with the pain.  I'm planning on going med-free and I feel great about my decision, but I'm still nervous.

    2) That the baby will be stillborn or have an awful medical condition/disorder

    3) Dying during childbirth.  I know it's rare, but it terrifies me the most.

    This exactly.

  • imageLeahanneM:
    3. Embarassment, Im a pretty private person.. I know this is shallow and not realistic, but I know I will humiliated if I fart,throw up, poop or pee while dilivering... and I mean knowing my luck, I will do it all

     This is my one and only fear. I would pretty much rather die than take a dump in front of my husband. Seriously. Is anyone else bothered by this?

  • You don't feel tearing.  It's not that bad, I promise.
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  • I pretty much have to get a c-section because of previous pelvis injuries from a car accident and I am really nervous.  I hate surgery and imagining myself being awake while they slice me open freaks me out. 

     My worst fear is that the epidural wont take and I'll feel everything.  

  • imagelisaohgee:
    You don't feel tearing.  It's not that bad, I promise.

    yeah but the recovery sucks. 

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  • 1. Something wrong with baby

    2. Baby not coming out, like being stuck under pelvic bone.  I saw this once on a Baby Story and can't get it out of my mind.

    3.  Epidural only taking effect on one side (again, Baby Story induced fear)

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