Babies: 9 - 12 Months

This makes me sad sometimes

We went to the park yesterday and a little boy was there playing with his mom. They came up and talked to us and he noticed Natalie's ear and said "ewww yucky, owwie". It kind of makes me sad when this happens. Just a few days earlier we had a little girl point out Natalie to her mom while we were at Joann Fabrics and the mom was like "yea, that's a pretty baby" and then the girl said "No. Look at her ear!".

I know they are just kids and I know I should be thankful that Natalie can't understand it yet. Sometimes it just makes me feel bad. My husband thinks I'm crazy for saying that but he notices everytime someone says something about her ear too.

And as an AW. Look at how much better her ear is doing!! I'm sure you guys can't notice much of a difference but there is a huge one! Much more noticable of a difference when you see it in person.

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Re: This makes me sad sometimes

  • And those were prime opportunities for those parents to tell their kids 1) That everyone is different 2) That's a good thing and 3) Pointing is impolite.

    I love me some little Natalie.

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  • Hugs! I'm sorry. I am sure that's hard. I had no idea she had any issues with her ear. Is it a hemangioma?

    DS has a hemangioma on his right side. I can't tell you how many people point it out to me like I don't know it's there. The old ladies in church are the worst. One asked if he bumped his head. Umm, no, it's a birthmark.

    On the kid front, my 5 year old nephew said to me "I don't like his red thing" when he first met him. Kids are blunt. 

    I'm sorry you have to deal with those comments. They would make me sad too.  

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  • People are just plain ignorant and superficial. They don't understand how words can really hurt.

    Natalie is gorg! She is an absolute doll with the biggest brightest eyes I have ever seen. Don't let anyone take that joy away from you. Keep truckin momma!

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  • ohhhh....i can imagine that would be VERY hard. 

    BUT, i do see a BIG difference and your dd is absolutely the cutest thing EVER!!!!!!!

    one more thing...my ds has a "stork bite" on his forehead and if a kid ever says anything to him about it i'll kick that kid's ass. not really...but, i'll want to.  :-)

  • I'm sorry this is happening. Kids don't know any better.  Like you said though, it's getting better (pictures don't show on my computer at work).  She's a blessing and in a few years I'm sure it'll be a lot less noticable (surgery, hair, etc).
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    Thanks. I remember when we first brought her home my niece was afraid to touch her because her ear was yucky. lol It's seriously so much better now and the doctors said it should be gone in a few years.

    And yes, it is a hemangioma. We've had a few problems with it (lots of swelling and an ulceration) but it really doesn't cause us too many issues. I'm just glad that when Natalie starts understanding those comments it probably won't even be noticable anymore.

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  • awww...your daughter is beautiful!  Is it a hemangionoma (ok..definitly butchered the spelling there)?  My daughter has one on her back.....I imagine it must be tough to hear those kids point out the one imperfection of your perfect little girl...but try not to let it bother you tho (easier said than done)...she is gorgeous and seems quite happy with her life! 
  • That makes me sad. I am sorry, but you know your DD is beautiful and it makes her more unique.

    My godson was born with fused toes (only 2 are fused together). Right now his mom calls it "his nemo flipper"

    We get the "baby has a boo-boo" all the time. The thing is, the adults are usually the inappropriate ones.  They will say, "Well, what happened to her eye?" Seriously, do you think that is any of your business? I am nice about it, but it really bothers DH.

  • What makes me sad it that the parents don't take the time to teach their kids the importance of tact and true beauty and if they do it afterward than good on them. Natalie is a beautiful baby all around.
  • DD has one on her head, and we get lots of question about it too. And people asking what happened.

    The one that made me chuckle was our 11 YO neighbor boy, asking if it was her birthmark. I told him, "yes." He just said, "Oh, cool!" 

    Adults are the worst. 

    She's a beauty. Hopefully people will notice it less as it's getting better. 

    Honestly, I'd start to make comments back for insufficient parent response, as mentioned - like "everybody is different" or "G-d gave her a special strawberry mark."

  • imageBitterOldHag:

    And those were prime opportunities for those parents to tell their kids 1) That everyone is different 2) That's a good thing and 3) Pointing is impolite.

    I love me some little Natalie.

    Yes, and I know how you feel. DD#1 has a birthmark that covers her right arm/shoulder and has scars on her face from a separate incident. I feel like it is hard with a girl and teaching her that it is okay to be different. When she last switched day cares she said "Now I am going to be asked a million times what is wrong with me". Most of the time though, she just lets it roll of her back. I think sometimes she likes being different and having a story to share. The funny thing is now I look at DD and don't even see the birthmark or scars at all.

    So, my long story was to say, I know how you feel, but Natalie is beautiful.

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  • I imagine how you feel. But in a couple of years you won't remember it! I can notice the difference, so sooner than later it won't be there.

    Your baby is beautiful and healthy, so don't let ignorant people bother you!

  • sam19sam19 member

    Thanks. The lady at the park was really cool about it and just told her son that it was another thing that made Natalie beautiful. That was cool and her son just agreed with her. He was pretty enthralled with Natalie.

    The doctor's always told me we could do laser surgery if it doesn't fade or plastic surgery (when she's older!) if the ear swelling makes her ear seem a little deformed but I thought that was pretty extreme. I figure if her ear does end up being a little deformed or something it would hardly be noticable and I could hopefully teach her just to embrace it.

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    ?The lady at the park was really cool about it and just told her son that it was another thing that made Natalie beautiful.?

    Beautiful and unique. I love Natalie. ??

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  • Oh sweetie, I understand exactly how you feel! I get comments or stares about Keegan too. Right now, He has even more additions to his face. Its rough. And it makes me sad.

    Natalie is beautiful, just like her mom! I can really see the difference!

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