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MIL/ 1st Birthday Question

Do you think it's too much to ask MIL/FIL to drive 3.5 hours to my parents house for DS's birthday party?
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Re: MIL/ 1st Birthday Question

  • My family is going to have to drive 6 hours to ours.  If they want to, they'll do it. 
  • no, but it's up to them..
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  • I think we need more information.  Are they in good health?  Are they comfortable driving?  What's the alternative, do they not come?  Is there a reason that they wouldn't come, working the night before or some such?
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    I think we need more information.  Are they in good health?  Are they comfortable driving?  What's the alternative, do they not come?  Is there a reason that they wouldn't come, working the night before or some such?

     

    They are in good health, only in their late 40s. They drive all the time to other places. The only reason they don't want to come is because it takes up their whole Saturday....

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    imageCityplanner:
    I think we need more information.  Are they in good health?  Are they comfortable driving?  What's the alternative, do they not come?  Is there a reason that they wouldn't come, working the night before or some such?

     

    They are in good health, only in their late 40s. They drive all the time to other places. The only reason they don't want to come is because it takes up their whole Saturday....

    Do they really have that much else going on that they couldn't give up one Saturday for their grandson's birthday party?

  • Sure, if that's where your having the party then I would invite them and let them decide.  They can always decide to stay an extra night or two and make it a longer visit.  My parents live 6-7 hours away and will be driving up.  Heck they drive up once a month now that DS is here.
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  • not at all-  is the party near you guys? The only way I could see them maybe getting upset is if you are having the party not near where you live and near your parents, but regardless it is their grandkid's bday.

    My parents will be driving 2 hrs for B's party, and my sister about 3-  we are pretty spread out, and they would never contemplate missing it or thinking it bad that we are not doing it close to them- it is by us.

    EDD with #4  01-20-14
    Proud mama to a boys-  6/17/09 - a girl 2/23/11- and a boy 8/20/12

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    imageSunflower55014:

    imageCityplanner:
    I think we need more information.  Are they in good health?  Are they comfortable driving?  What's the alternative, do they not come?  Is there a reason that they wouldn't come, working the night before or some such?

     

    They are in good health, only in their late 40s. They drive all the time to other places. The only reason they don't want to come is because it takes up their whole Saturday....

     

    Do they really have that much else going on that they couldn't give up one Saturday for their grandson's birthday party?

     

    My words exactly! 

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    imageCityplanner:
    I think we need more information.  Are they in good health?  Are they comfortable driving?  What's the alternative, do they not come?  Is there a reason that they wouldn't come, working the night before or some such?

     

    They are in good health, only in their late 40s. They drive all the time to other places. The only reason they don't want to come is because it takes up their whole Saturday....

    wow.  well if they really don't want to give up one of their saturdays to come to their grandchild's first birthday party then I would say tough sh!t for them.  My ILs are flying up 4+ hours and my grandmother (the girls great-grandma) will be taking a 5 hour train ride to be here....

  • Do they important responsibilities that day that the party will keep them from completing?

    If not, I would stick with planning it at your parent's and if they choose not to come, it is their loss.

    J - 9/6/09 L and A - 1/17/12
  • Mine would do it but all their children live at least 3 hours so they are used to it.   
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  • No.

    I'd use the 3.5 hour drive (if they were that far away) as a reason to hope they wouldn't come.   Bwahahaha.

  • No. If my mom wants to come she'll have to fly across country :(
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  • Mine are flying in.
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  • imageBelleBaby:
    imageSunflower55014:

    imageCityplanner:
    I think we need more information.  Are they in good health?  Are they comfortable driving?  What's the alternative, do they not come?  Is there a reason that they wouldn't come, working the night before or some such?

     

    They are in good health, only in their late 40s. They drive all the time to other places. The only reason they don't want to come is because it takes up their whole Saturday....

    Do they really have that much else going on that they couldn't give up one Saturday for their grandson's birthday party?

    This. My mom and sisters are driving 5 hours after one of them is flying in from FL. 

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  • Wow this is their grandchild's FIRST BIRTHDAY. I would think no distance would be a problem to come and celebrate. If they don't want to come let them be the ones not in any photos when your child gets older, because it was too much of a problem for them to travel. I would be majorly ticked off though.
  • Would I do it for my grandchild? I hope so.  

    But, not every grandparent is as interested in their grandchildren.  Do I love the fact that our parents are interested? Yes.  Do I think it is their obligation? No.

    We chose to have kids not them.  I'd figure it's just their loss if they don't want to participate. 

  • Are you offering them a place to stay overnight?  I think 7 hours round-trip for a birthday party is a lot in one day.

    The way I look at it, the only people I really really need at my DD's 1st birthday is my husband, my baby, and me.  If other people come it is icing on the cake :).

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