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How long does it take to get over him?!
Okay, so I know, no one can tell me the real answer. But I'm ready to be over him.
It has slowly gotten easier, but there are still things that trigger my emotions. At this point, I get sad and then I get mad at myself for getting sad. I feel stupid for letting him get to me, when obviously there is nothing I can do to change it, and I know I deserve better then the person he has become. I still love him, I still miss him, and it makes me mad at myself, yet I can't change those feelings!
It seems like he found some magical switch, and within a week of him walking out he was a-okay and happy. Where is my switch?
The worse part about all of this, is the unknown. I hate not knowing stuff.
And as immature as it sounds, I would love to stand on a roof and yell 'It's not fair', just to get it off my chest!
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Re: How long does it take to get over him?!
While yes, I am lonely it's not even about all of that.
It's the fact that he was able to throw away 6.5 years that easy, and I'm still a mess. It makes me mad that he can go out and do whatever he wants, whether thats with his gf, friends or whatever.
Sometimes he will say something that makes me wonder if he is 100% over everything, but if he's not he does a really good job of hiding it.
I'm tired of crying over him.
It's small silly things that get me started. Currently I HATE the sounds of motorcycles, and regret not riding his with him. I'm planning dds birthday party, and it makes me think about the dreams that I had for our family. Which of course leads to those dreams being broken, having to give up our house, and share holidays and all of the things that come along with divorce. It makes me hate him.
I just want to be over it, so I can be happy and not worry about crying at the drop of a hat, over a backyard, a motorcycle, or some look/comment that he gives me.
I want to be done and 100% over him, but I'm not sure how to get there..and the waiting game is not fun. Lol.
Ahh, such a cliche but time DOES heal all. I heard it takes at least half of the time you were w/ someone to get over them....in my case I lost complete and total respect for STBXH before we even split so I think that helped for sure.
I don't want to say hang in there, but try to stay positive. It is hard, we all have better days than others. Try to do something nice for yourself!
It took me about a year to get over my ex-husband. I ended up taking him to court for child support after not seeing him for a year, when I saw him at court, I felt NOTHING...he had gotten really fat actually and I didn't find him the least bit physically attractive. It was SO freeing! I felt so much better! It took a long time for me to get to that point, and when I got there, it was awesome!
Take it one day at a time, focus soley on your little one, and time will make it better, trust me.
Honestly I wish I had an answer for you. A big part of me hates my ex because he emotionally and verbally abused me, but part of me still misses the man I married (before the craziness) and wishes we could have been able to give our daughter the family I always dreamed of giving her. We have been seperated since Feb, divorce should be final in June. I'm still going through the motions. My only advice is hang in there. Divorce and single motherhood is a bumpy ride