Babies: 9 - 12 Months

Anyone else have babies with late bedtimes?

I'm beginning to wonder if I am the worst mother in the world. I saw a post the other day with bumpies who said their babies' bedtimes were around 7pm.

I always had a vision in my head of babies with early bedtimes. But in our household, DS goes to bed between 9-10pm.

The thing is, it works with our schedules. DH doesn't get home from work until about 7:30. After that we get dinner ready and eat around 8pm. After that we have a little bit of time to play and get him ready for bed.

Last night was the earliest he ever went down and that was at 9:15. FWIW, DS wakes up around 8am.

Is anyone else in the same boat? The thing is, I don't really want him going to bed earlier because it would mean neither DH nor I would get much time with him at night.

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  • DD's bedtime is at 10:30pm. If we put her to bed earlier, then she'll wake up super early in the morning.
  • I think that if it's working for you and your family then it doesn't matter what your LOs bedtime is compared to anyone else's LO.  I think it will matter when he gets to school age, obviously, but now, it works.  That said, our LO goes down between 8:30 & 9:00pm and he wakes up between 5:30-6:30am.  We've tried everything to make his wake up time later (like moving up his bedtime to earlier) and nothing's worked so now we just go with what works for LO and for us.
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  • My kids go to bed at 8:30.  DH typically gets home around 7 and then we have dinner and they get to hang out with Daddy for a bit.

    The schedule works fine for us, they are not tired throughout the day or anything.  For some people, later schedules is what works best. 

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  • It's the same with us. DS is usually in bed between 9:30-10, sometimes even later. He'll sleep until 8. He never has been one to go to sleep early and since we bedshare, the late bedtime is ok for now.
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  • I don't think it's a problem. DS had a really messed up schedule as a baby and now he will sleep just fine. He has always STTN but the times would vary. Now he sleeps 9-9 and we will start adjusting him to an earlier bedtime this summer.

    DD falls asleep in her swing at 8:30pm and we take her up to bed when we are ready. She might eat a bottle then but will go right back to sleep and sleeps in until 8:30-10am. It works well for us.
  • DS has an earlier bed time. 8pm. He wakes up at 6-630am. If I could I would love to have a baby that goes down at like 930-10 and sleep until 730-8ish. We've tired to put him down later and he still wakes up at the same time. I just think that if it works for you.. then it doesnt really matter.
  • 9-10 is early in our house!  DS used to be a super night owl, going to bed between 11-12.  now that he's cutting out his 3rd nap, it's somewhere between 9-10:30.  the other night i had him in bed asleep by 9:15 & i didn't know what to do w/myself!  (although i think that was the day DS woke up early & didn't fall back asleep, we usually go in to get him up at 8:30).

    i'd say as long as it works for you, don't worry about it.

    but i know what you mean.  i always read on here about babies in bed at 7-9pm.  i sort of would like more grown up time at night to get things done and relax, but DH & i are night owls, of course DS is!

  • we have an 8:30-9:30p bedtime .. i don't even get home from work until 6:30p. i CANNOT imagine putting dd down then or at 7pm ?!?  i wouldn't get to spend any time w/ her let alone dh.  fwiw, she is an AWESOME napper during the day - 90-120 min morning nap and a 60-90 minute afternoon nap.

    our bedtime works for us .. she's up at 7:15-45am.

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  • I've tried getting her to go down around 7:30 but she treats it like a nap and wakes up at 9-10 and wants to play.  By midnight she done.
  • Yep!  Logan usually stays up until 10.  Sometimes he's in bed early, and sometimes... he's up until 11:30!!  You are not the worst mother in the world.  As long as your baby is getting the appropriate amount of sleep, it doesn't necessarily matter when it is.. whatever works for you guys! 
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  • This.  Alexander is the same way.....if he falls asleep around 7 or so it is only like a nap for him....on a good night, he will nap from 4ish to 6ish, and then go down for the night between 10 and 11.....but he never goes down for the night before 10 p.m.  The time he wakes up in the morning varies.....no matter what I do I just can't get him on a consistent schedule.  I think it is partly because my IL's watch him during the day at our house.....so he doesn't need to wake up at any specific time every day.  If he did, I think his schedule would be more consistent. 
  • I'm all for doing what's best for your baby as long as baby is not being negatively affected by it.  Whatever you decide to do I feel needs to be done in your child's best interest and not necessarily YOUR convenience.  Not flaming here, just my thoughts.  Also, something to read and consider. 

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  • I don't set a bedtime for DD, but she usually conks out between 9-11....every once in a blue mood she will be asleep sooner or later than that, but she sleeps all the way until about 7am every morning without waking up, so I don't complain.
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  • We start B's bedtime routine at 10:30PM most nights. He's usually in bed by 11:30PM, though some nights it's a little earlier (or later). Last night he went to bed at 10:45, but he took terrible naps all day so it made sense that he was exhausted. 

    He gets up, on average, about 11:30AM.


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  • Late bedtime for us-8:30-9:00, wakes up around 8. 

    If she goes to sleep before 8:00, she'll be wide awake from 2-4 am.


  • My kid goes to bed at 11/12

    I know its late but my husband works late (2 jobs) and i think its in her best interest to see her father everyday.

    She also sleeps late. Usually til 10/11. And she sleeps thru the night and takes at least 3 great naps a day. Im a sahm so she can sleep as long as she'd like.

    My pedi says as long as she is sleeping long enough it doesnt matter what time she actually falls asleep. She is on a consistent routine and bedtime is a happy time... its just on a different schedule than most

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  • DD's bedtime is 9:30 and she sleeps until 9:30am. She gets plenty of sleep so I don't worry about it ;)

    DD1's bedtime is 9 and she sleeps until around 8. I don't think we've ever put her to bed before 8:45! It just works for our family. We all go to bed late and get up late. DH makes his own hours so that's what works for all of us :)

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  • Dd has always gone to bed late. It used to be 10oclock.

    Now that she has to get up at 6am she goes to bed at about 9:15.

    She takes two, two hour naps.

    I have tried several times to get her to bed earlier, and it has never happened, we end up fighting until her regular bedtime.

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