We are (re)doing Ferber tonight, any tips for surviving the cries? I know it is what is best for him right now - he needs to learn how to sleep on his own (after a month of being sick and teething).. but do you have any tips?
If you are anti-CIO please don't flame this post - I respect your position, please respect mine.
Re: Moms who did CIO or Ferber.. any tips for surviving the cries?
My mantra for the first 2 nights (which were the worst) was "She's not sick, and she's not hurt. I'm doing what is best for her in the long run."
She now sleeps from 7-7 and falls asleep on her own. She's a much better napper because of it too. She is soooo much happier, which makes us happier parents. It isn't for everyone, but it was the right thing for us. Good luck.
turn off the baby monitor and jump in the shower. i found that helped drown out the noise, and if i was feeling guilty i could just stand in there and let myself cry too.
i couldn't go check on her-that made it worse, so if at the end of my shower she was still crying i would go get her for the night. i think it only happened once or twice though. most times i would finish my shower and she'd be sound asleep.
good luck! it sucks, but it's worth the pain imo.
- We turned the momitor down and just watched the lights.
- Had DH be the one to do the check-ins since mommy = food and old habits
- Watched tv and talked about anything else
- Kept telling ourselves that this was good for him to learn to sleep on his own and that it was ok!
Good luck!
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