When are you/did you tell..........?

B2bFall2005

• Your immediate family
• Work
• Friends

I'm having dinner tonight w/ my best friend - but not sure I'm ready to tell yet.  Just wondering when everyone else plans to (or already has) told various 'types' of people?

canthardlywait426

My best friend knew about 5 minutes after DH knew.

And actually, if Im being honest, flgirl (here) knew about 5 minutes BEFORE DH knew. She called me while I was shaking in disbelief.

Edit to add: Parents were also told within a few days!

Everyone else has to wait!

mmd091909

We were not planning on telling anyone until after the first u/s, however that has proved to be very difficult. DH and I have both told our bff's. We plan on telling my immediate family this weekend and his Mothers Day weekend. His family lives out of state so we have to wait a bit.

curlydoglover

Family - we'll probably tell our parents after the first ultrasound.  Not sure when that actually will be.  Our first appt is a week from today, but I don't know if they'll do one then or not.

This is proving difficult, however, since we have several family commitments this month and people are going to wonder why I'm not drinking.

Extended family and friends will be shortly after.

Work - not until into 2nd tri, I think, unless it's unavoidable.

Sweetdream415

We haven't told anyone yet.  We are hoping to tell both sets of parents over Mother's Day weekend, and then everyone else will have to wait until after 1st tri.  (That's assuming our moms can keep their mouths shut! )

tharper0830

We told our family and close friends the day we found out. I am extremely nervous about m/c but I figure I would need my friends if that happened for support, so they might as well get to hear the good news. And a few more people in my family know than is probably necessary, but my sister and my MIL have big mouths and we figured we would rather tell family ourselves then have them do it.

 My work has to wait, I have only been here 6 weeks and I am 4 weeks pg. Oops!!

AnnecyDream

We will wait to tell family and close friends until after 12 week ultrasound, or whenever there's a picture to show.

I *might* tell my mom and best friend who is also pregnant after we hear the heartbeat, still undecided about that.

Everyone else, like work and our greater social circle, can wait until I can't hide it anymore. 

We also have a lot of family and social events over the next 2 months. Sparkling grape juice will be my best friend!

s+d2007

I have told 3 people and he hasn't told anyone yet.  We are telling our families Mother's day weekend.  Close to the 2nd tri we'll tell everyone else.

alicb

Haven't told family yet, I am thinking Mother's Day.  I will tell sister after u/s on 28th is all goes well.

I just told my boss, but asked her not to spread the news until after first tri. 

My two best friends knew the morning of my BFP.  All others will learn after we tell families.

It's been REALLY hard not to tell my sister who is going to be so happy for us and I talk to her everyday.

TMNTgirl

Immediate Families - Haven't told them yet. First u/s is tomorrow and we are having dinner with both our parents on the 25th (already planned a long time ago). We will tell them then.

Friends - Told my BFF right after DH. She lives with us right now, so there is no way I could have hid it from her. Plus, she needs time to make plans to move out.

Work - My boss in going on Maternity Leave starting May 6th and probably won't be back in the office until July. So I'm going to tell her once she gets back and I have more time to think of my plans for maternity leave. We work in a very small office (like 4 people total). So it's pretty flexable with easing back into work and working from home in the beginning.

Mianda16

So far the only people who know are DH and our neighbors (we really close with them and she is also pg).

The plan is to tell my mom this Saturday (her birthday), DH's parents on Mother's Day, and everyone else once we get out of the 1st tri or at least hear the heartbeat.

This secret is harder to keep than I ever thought it would be!!!

Moonbeam828

Close family: My dad and sister and DH's parents were told almost immediately.   DH wanted to tell his grandmother...she decided to ignore our plea to keep it a secret (I saw that coming a mile away), so once she started telling people DH had to do damage control and make sure the rest of his siblings heard it from him. I also told my aunt, who's been like a 2nd mom to me.

Extended family: we'll tell them at some family gathering over the summer, maybe Memorial Day (if Grandma doesn't decide to tell first, that is).  There'll be a lot of graduations/confirmations this summer, so I don't want to tell then and steal someone's thunder.  This is probably the point we'll tell friends and co-workers too.

shouldbworkin

I told my BFF last night.

Told my sister last week because she lives overseas and was going back home

Probably not telling anyone else for awhile.  Won't tell work until about 10-11 weeks - after my 2nd OB appt where they'll listen for the HB with a doppler.  I'm hesitant to tell anyone else b/c I have little kids.  Once they know, it's hard to take it back if something happens or keep them quiet around certain people.  But, I can't imagine I'll be able to keep it from family for that long.  I might just have to keep a low profile for awhile.

Nicole0012

We just got our BFP yesterday afternoon. Late last night we told my parents (we are very close). I plan on telling my sister today, but the rest of DH's family, and all of our friends will have to wait until May 13th (our first appt.).

christin228

I told by best friend immediately... Texted her a pic of my bfp. Told SO later that night, after dinner. Then the next day I told 2 of my closest friends. We will tell immediate family in another month or so, then work and everyone else closer to 12 weeks. However is ms gets bad, I may end up telling my job sooner.

JulietL129

TBH, I texted my bff a pic of the test and asked her if she saw the + too or if I had just gone-off-the-deep-end crazy :-P When she said it was there, I told DH (it was within minutes).. we told our parents a few days later who told siblings who told everyone else although we asked them not to. So now everyone knows. 

Sonadora

Your immediate family: After 1st tri. I can't get everyone's hopes up again. Work: Not until 20 weeks, at least. Maybe longer if I can hide it. It's not going to go well. Friends: Ones I see regularly will likely figure it out since I'm a fairly well known wino...we'll try to avoid them for a little while. Ones I don't see regularly will be told later...after work I'd say. Maybe not until I have a healthy baby home.

watermellens

Your immediate family - We told our parents this past weekend; everyone else? not sure yet...we might tell our brothers this week, but all other family will probably wait a while  Work - I won't officially tell work until I'm (almost) at the end of the first trimester. But there will be close friends that I'll tell at work before that Friends - my BF actually knew before my hubby!! Hubby was out of town and I was visiting a friend. She took a test and it was positive...I thought "what the heck" and took the other...and it was positive!!

kat81

We have told no one yet, because my period isn't due until tomorrow. But I've tested each day for the last three, and it's still positive....

We will tell our immediate families this week. I really would like to keep it a surprise until we are past the tenuous zone for miscarriage, but I just don't think we can. Plus we could use their support if that were to happen.

We might tell a few close friends in the weeks following, or we might wait until the ultrasound.

I might keep it longer for work people, but otoh they are the ones who have to see me day-to-day, so they might be the hardest to keep it from! I'm going to see a bunch of work-related friends from around the country and world in a few weeks, but it is probably too soon to spill the beans to all of them. It is too bad because I'll also be in the throes of ms at that time and so it'll be hard to keep a secret.

cdh224

We told both sets of family Easter weekend, close friends here and there since then, and I was sort of forced to tell my assistant principal when he asked for clarification as to why i had to leave Friday for a Dr. appt.  (not sure why it's his business but didn't want a no, so I had to let him know the deal.)  Now it'll probably snowball at work!

Deac130

I think we are also going to tell our families on Mother's day.  Friends, I think when we reach 2nd tri (I may tell my BFF sooner though Its too hard to keep from her)

Work: I actually told important people yesterday.  Sounds backward but I work in a Vet's office and there are some things I can't be exposed to now (xrays, cat poop, gas anesthetics).