Do you ever wonder...

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What type of a Mom you would be if you only had 1? 

OR

Have you changed as a Mom, if you had a singleton then multiples?

 

As for me....

I feel completely blessed to have my two wonderful babies, and I wouldn't ever wish that I had just one... I just wonder sometimes if I would be a more organized Mom if I only had one..  I also feel like I would pay more attention to 1 baby - since my time wouldn't be split between 2... NOT that I don't pay attention to my kids.. just that they each get 1/2 of the time 1 would (does that make any kind of sense?).  Sometimes I think that a singleton would be easy,  but I'm sure it doesn't feel that way to singleton moms 

Leigh71

My 2 are still on the inside, and I'm excited to meet them.  I am the mom to 1 son (thru adoption)...he is 11 now. 

My sister has 4 kids, and I can watch them and him (all 5) with more ease than just him by himself.  (he was very strong willed/busy, etc as a little one)  So, I hope that he has prepared me for 2.  Hope.

Polofsky

I agree, I love these 2 babies and honestly wouldn't have it any other way. I do feel guilty though when they are both crying and I can't give my attention to just one to make it all better, they have to share my attention for everything and most things take twice as long as they would with just 1.

And I do sometimes think that singleton moms have no idea what they are complaining about...I have no sympathy!! (my sisters have asked that I work on that before they start their families)

Rangergal9

I so nervous about devoting equal time to 3 children.  With DD it is all about her all the time and I can't imagine what it's going to be like with her and then 2 newborns.  I am excited about two babies, but am also sad because I feel like they won't get as much individual attention like we were able to give DD.

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i'm a lot more care-free now that i have more than 1.  With Griffin EVERYTHING was about him - now that there are 3 I just can't be everywhere at once - sometimes they have to cry b/c i'm busy with another... sometimes they will have a shoe in their mouth and I can't get to them right away --- I'm a LOT more relaxed now than I was with Griffin alone.

melp723

when I found out I was expecting twins, I was so nervous that I wouldn't be able to handle 2 babies and how could I divide my love between them.  These are my first 2 babies so I don't know what life would be like with just one, but I couldn't imagine my life without the two of them.  And I realize what a strong woman I really am, although sometimes I'm not even sure how I make it thru the day

jacobandcrystal

Well I know what kind of mom I was with 1 ; )  One thing I know for sure is that I am WAY more efficient now!  Hubby and I always marvel about how quickly we can get us all out of house, etc.  It has really made us better partners because it's almost like we can read each other's minds about what needs to be done. On Easter, my SIL laughed because we had all 4 of our kids in the car faster than they had their 1 (we were all at our house).

I'm not so sure I'd call myself a better mom with 1 because I got bored a lot and ended up actually keeping up with Days of Our Lives for a while there (which I haven't watched in a few years now).

Of course I end up feeling guilty most of the time that none of the 4 really get any one-on-one mommy time, but I figure they have each other and I just try to keep in mind all the fun they're going to have together over the years : )

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I think I was a better mom to DS1.  When DS1 was an infant we did attachment parenting (no CIO, being super attentive, meeting baby's needs ASAP).  With 2 babies it's just not as possible, I often have to just tend to who's crying the hardest/loudest if my hands are even free.  I love all of my boys and wouldn't change my life at all (I never thought my life could be so wonderful), but 1 baby at a time is easier with some things (there are some things with twins that are easier or not any harder).