Would you be annoyed?

TriciaChick

 This AM I had a playdate at an indoor playground place with another mom.  I had planned on leaving the baby with DH (since there really is not anything for his age there and I knew he would just get restless in his stroller).

DH decided he was going to a boat show with his friend today.  He made a huge show out of how tired he was since he worked midnights last night and wanted to get up at 3 for the show.  (He usually does not go to sleep until 12 or 1) so I took both kids so he could sleep. 

I then suggested him taking out 3 year old to the boat show since he LOVES boats.  DH says no.  He NEVER takes him anywhere ugg.  Would you be annoyed or should I just ignore it and let him go have some fun with his friend?  I would LOVE to have some time with just one kid so I can clean closets but I guess that wont happen!

jettagurl

I would be.  If it's somewhere kids are welcome (like a boat show) DH always takes him.  There's no reason he can't, he just doesn't WANT to.  Payback, I say.  He gets both kids tomorrow while you get out for a couple hours alone. 

 

hopefulmom

I agree with jetta...

Zenya

Taking a 3 year old to a boat show is not easy.  I can't imagine his friend would be all that happy with him showing up with his kid, either.  Leave him off and find a different time for you to get a break.  

Wanting a break = totally normal

Crashing his man date = not fair, imo 

jettagurl

Zenya:

Taking a 3 year old to a boat show is not easy.  I can't imagine his friend would be all that happy with him showing up with his kid, either.  Leave him off and find a different time for you to get a break.  

Wanting a break = totally normal

Crashing his man date = not fair, imo 

 

I disagree - we've taken both of or older kids to the boat show before.  Unless he is seriously buying a boat and needs to look/talk to salesmen without interruption, he can manage with the kid.   Maybe my kids are exceptionally well behaved and easy, but I doubt it.

As for crashing a man date, unless this was planned and wife knew well ahead of time (which it doesn't seem) this is not a man date. He just woke up and decided to go and called a friend.....not giving much consideration to his wife and his parenting responsibilities.    

veloelle

I'd be very annoyed. He needs to stop being a baby and be a dad, which includes taking his child with him. DH will take DD for me, even if it's just to Home Depot. It is so good for them to have one on one with each parent.

sugarp

Yes, I would be annoyed! I understand him wanting "guy time", but a mom needs alone time too...and you're not even asking for alone time! You just want one kid. It's unfair IMO, and sometimes my H pulls that on me, and the next day I give him BOTH kids and leave to run errands, shop, see a friend, or just be by myself. I've taken my kids to a boat show before, and it's totally doable. Most the time, the kids love going and filling up those plastic bags they give you with flyers, ads, keychains, free merchandise.

Zenya

jettagurl:

 

I disagree - we've taken both of or older kids to the boat show before.  Unless he is seriously buying a boat and needs to look/talk to salesmen without interruption, he can manage with the kid.   Maybe my kids are exceptionally well behaved and easy, but I doubt it.

As for crashing a man date, unless this was planned and wife knew well ahead of time (which it doesn't seem) this is not a man date. He just woke up and decided to go and called a friend.....not giving much consideration to his wife and his parenting responsibilities.    

I think it's a context thing.  If her DH is typically uninvolved/unhelpful then yes, he's being unreasonable.  If he's like my DH then a day at a boat show after a midnight shift sounds more than reasonable, to me.

JOEBunny

OMG would I!  I have the opposite problem.  I have taken DD to the boat show 3 years in a row and DH will not go with me.  I have gone alone, with my brother, and with a neighbors DH.  I love the boat show, and DD does too.  She caught her first fish there and could not have been more excited.  Great place for kids!